Are you a good catch?

[GuySimple]

To me someone is a catch when they don't think they are....but they are.

 

There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Just like the truly great people in history had a great deal of humility, a great catch is someone who is just a nice person....no matter how much "stuff" they have.

[elastica]

So, I guess I am going to be the very very bad, cruel poster here.

Please no offence anyone, but honestly, I think this topic is pathetic.

It's like, people trying to make themselves believe that they are a good catch, through putting lists together, and showing them to others... And then others deciding if they are good catch or not... ??

Anyway, since I am already here ...

There is an easy way to find out if you are a good catch or not. Ask yourself the following question: Am I happy? If the answer is yes: you are a damn good catch. If the answer is no: you suck (no matter how many houses/cars/degrees/abs etc you have), because you expect others to make you happy. My humble opinion.

So yes, I am a good catch....

[johan]

So, I guess I am going to be the very very bad, cruel poster here.

Please no offence anyone, but honestly, I think this topic is pathetic.

It's like, people trying to make themselves believe that they are a good catch, through putting lists together, and showing them to others... And then others deciding if they are good catch or not... ??

Anyway, since I am already here ...

There is an easy way to find out if you are a good catch or not. Ask yourself the following question: Am I happy? If the answer is yes: you are a damn good catch. If the answer is no: you suck (no matter how many houses/cars/degrees/abs etc you have), because you expect others to make you happy. My humble opinion.

So yes, I am a good catch....

 

I'm pretty sure just being happy is not all it takes.

[daphne]

You obviously attract men who are very bad at math. I hope that's not a dealbreaker for you.

 

lol. Nah. As long as they're not stupid and don't live in their parents' basement I'm good.

[musemaj11]

Well, from her posts that I read, Sarah does sound like one of the quality women out there.

[sb129]

So how come she is still single?

 

This thread does have a ring of "methinks the lady doth protest too much"...

 

I agree with Elastica. I'm all for boosting morale and self esteem, but being happy counts for more than a long list of self professed "pluses". If you are happy with your life and yourself, you are more likely to attract a like minded person.

 

Its also interesting to note how many people on this thread have listed material things as reasons why they are a good catch.

[daphne]

if i am a 'good catch' it is because when i find a potential partner with whom i am tremendously attracted to i approach the relationship thinking how i might be able to contribute into a mutually beneficial relationship (what i bring to the table, so to speak), and how i might make my partner just happy to be with me, or how i might enhance her life. and likewise, she'll have identified me (my qualities, etc) as a 'good catch'

 

saying that i might be, doesn't mean that i'm good for just anyone- and i prefer it that way

 

I'd say that sets you apart from a lot of people who are only looking to see what you can do to make them happy. It is a two way street, after all.

[daphne]

It seems the more you have your sh*t together, they less chance you have to find a date.

 

I don't know if I agree with this. I will say that it can be intimidating to those who may not be as fortunate in their circumstances. I've received a lot of interest, but I admit that it's harder to find someone for a serious relationship because we may be in different circumstances. And I don't have time to emotionally babysit someone who can't communicate that they may be a little insecure about it. I'm not looking for someone who is in the same position in life necessarily. But I am looking for a good guy who can hold his own in the relationship.

[FearandLoathing]

I know you don't have to be fantastic in order to find someone who's right for you, but you'd think that having a lot going for you plus no major dealbreakers would give you a much wider pool to choose from. Therefore the more you have going for you, the easier it should be to find someone, no?

 

Yet I see people who seem to have less going for them but have a lovely stable relationship, while I'm still unmarried. So what is it, just sheer luck?

 

I guess I just meant more like, you shouldn't be with just anyone you should be with someone who's wonderful for you and that wonderful person won't care about a checklist of things that make a good catch.

Either way, I wasn't talking about anyone in particular, just that the idea is a little foreign to me.

It may be luck or it may be that people who have less going for them feel like they're not good enough so they just stick with whoever will take them (I think someone else mentioned this? And the point of this thread is to get away from this thinking anyway).

[tigressA]

I agree with Elastica. I'm all for boosting morale and self esteem, but being happy counts for more than a long list of self professed "pluses". If you are happy with your life and yourself, you are more likely to attract a like minded person.

 

Its also interesting to note how many people on this thread have listed material things as reasons why they are a good catch.

 

I agree, particularly with the bolded. I'm perfectly happy with myself and how my life is going, and I have had no trouble attracting like-minded men. I wouldn't consider any financial/material-related thing as a reason for someone to be considered a catch, ever. The only thing I'm remotely concerned with in that regard is that they show clear signs of managing their financial situation effectively, as I do.

Edited November 27, 2010 by tigressA

[musemaj11]

So how come she is still single?

So if you are single there must be something wrong with you?

[johan]

So if you are single there must be something wrong with you?

 

Being single doesn't mean something is wrong with you. But if no one is trying to catch you, you might want to reserve your assessment of yourself as a catch. You might look good on paper, but who wants to date a list?

[musemaj11]

Being single doesn't mean something is wrong with you. But if no one is trying to catch you, you might want to reserve your assessment of yourself as a catch. You might look good on paper, but who wants to date a list?

Didnt she say that after her marriage, all her long time boyfriends wanted to marry her?

[sb129]

So if you are single there must be something wrong with you?

 

No, not at all.

 

Being single doesn't mean something is wrong with you. But if no one is trying to catch you, you might want to reserve your assessment of yourself as a catch. You might look good on paper, but who wants to date a list?

 

Exactly!

 

Didnt she say that after her marriage, all her long time boyfriends wanted to marry her?

 

Yes- but why did she feel the need to say that? Lots of people on here want a relationship, not a string of failed ones.

 

Did she mean "I am a catch, and heres why, if you are like me you can be one too?"

[musemaj11]

Yes- but why did she feel the need to say that? Lots of people on here want a relationship, not a string of failed ones.

Maybe she is picky and refuses to marry someone she doesnt feel 100% right for?

 

I would rather a woman reject me for not meeting her standard than having settling with me because she think she cant get anyone better.

[Els]

It's very simple.

 

I am entitled to want someone to love me for me, because when I am with a man, I love him for him.

 

Fair trade.

[northern_sky]

 

Did she mean "I am a catch, and heres why, if you are like me you can be one too?"

 

yeah, that's how i took it.

[Els]

I try not to be so insecure that I have to brag about what a great catch I am. I let other people figure that out.

 

LOL. Awesome post!

[skydiveaddict]

I've concluded that I am not a good catch. My work has me on the road almost constantly, sometimes I have long deployments in the military, and my hobbies tend to scare most women off

[sb129]

Its all in the eye of the beholder though, isn't it?

 

One persons great catch may be another ones throwback.

[skydiveaddict]

Its all in the eye of the beholder though, isn't it?

 

One persons great catch may be another ones throwback.

 

 

I used to think so, but not anymore

[Star Gazer]

After reading the OP, I kinda thought for a second, "Hmm, maybe I'm not the quintessential "great catch." Maybe that's why I'm single. :("

 

And then I thought, "I'm just me. I'm happy. And while I'm working on some things, I really like me. I've known some other people to like me too. That's good enough for me for now."

[Sarah1977]

So how come she is still single?

 

Actually, I've only been single for about 2 months. I was married for 10 years, happily. We grew apart and got divorced. I don't regret it. It happens. I guess I'm just not yet in a place where I feel the need to rush into another marriage. I guess I just want to meet people, have fun, and stay single for awhile.

 

 

Did she mean "I am a catch, and heres why, if you are like me you can be one too?"

yeah, that's how i took it.

 

Well, you guys took it wrong because that's not how I meant it at all. I just wanted to start a thread where people said nice things about themselves for a change. It makes me sad to read so many threads on here where people seem to be nonstop bashing themselves. I just want to inject a little bit of positivity, I guess. Sorry, my mistake. *shrugs

[skydiveaddict]

Gosh, you seem like you would be a great catch to me!

 

Lol I appreciate the humor

[Titania22]

I think I am the opposite of a great catch, but lots of people men and women seem to like me.

 

Go figure!