ginastar Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 last night on Thanksgiving and saw that he was with his new girl that he had told me hes not serious with. I guess that was a lie though. i dated him for 7 years and idk how one can just move on that like
Coolsbreeze Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I guess everyone has these kind of stories here. My ex broke up with me and a week later was with a new guy. And she met this guy while still bring involved with me. I even asked her if she had feelings for him when she broke up with me, but she lied to me. I guess the only thing you can really do now is just go NC and try your best to forget him. He's obviously moved on you should probably do the same. How long have you and him been broken up?
Author ginastar Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 its been 4 months. but every once in awhile he tries to contact me. i always think if hes moved on why does he bother with me
Fufu Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I guess it's a guilt thing.... they will try to contact us and if we are okay with them, they will finally think, "YES WE ARE FORGIVEN" And us.... if we still hold some romantic interest for them, we will start to feel weak again. It's a blessing in disguise for us.
Author ginastar Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 blessing in disguise for us?? what do u mean? it makes me think he's not that interested in the new girl if he's still thinking about me
evilmonkey2008 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 seriosuly go nc, trsut me i was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years, she dumped me a month ago that week she dates someone else and now she is telling me she is in love with this guy, wtf! how can she be in lvoe with some one after a month and a half! wtf! But no serisouly just go nc, the amount of heartache it gives you!
Fufu Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 (edited) Blessing in disguise, "At least, you know the person's true self NOW than later" You dated him for 7 years and he gave up the relationship and you saw him with another lady. Imagine, you dated him for another few more years down the road, and he gave up the relationship.... the feelings will be much worse. The earlier you knew about his character, the better for you. For me, I truly have near 0 respect for people who give up long-term relationship so easily, and worst if they are already with another person before ending the relationship or after ending the relationship. For us, we wish them all the best and we carry on with our lives even better and happier without them. Edited November 26, 2010 by Fufu
Author ginastar Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 yea. I just wish it was that easy!
Fufu Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Actually you are doing well... right now you are in this forum, your still continue to live on with your life, you are definitely doing it well. It s*cks when our partners (we loved and commited to) choose to go haywire and seek the easiest way out. The good thing is we are not like THEM. Our consciences are clear. Let them live with guilt till the end of time.
AlisaMarie Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 yea. I just wish it was that easy! It's not easy at all! My on and off relationship was brought back together from the advice of a "friend" of his. Then the closer they got... the further away I became. We started talking again last week but the rumors I have heard was that he was extremely close to her. He said just friends. But we hung out the other night and she was BLOWING his phone up. He saw people that they worked together with and he got nervous, then he told her that he was sleeping instead of out with me! WTF?? The next day... I got the "you're a great girl but..." yeah... you get it. If he's lying to her about me, he's surly lying to me about her. Coward, but it happens. What's sucks is I was always accused of wanting someone else and I never did! I was always about him... but the guilty dog barks... LOUD. This sucks!
Author ginastar Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 my ex doesnt feel guilty for some reason. He was emailing the girl from an account he knew I had the pw too. I couldnt understand why he would do that. Why he wanted me to be jealous? he could have used his regular email which i dont have the pw too or he simply could have text her. I dont understand his games
AlisaMarie Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 my ex doesnt feel guilty for some reason. He was emailing the girl from an account he knew I had the pw too. I couldnt understand why he would do that. Why he wanted me to be jealous? he could have used his regular email which i dont have the pw too or he simply could have text her. I dont understand his games Now that's weird, what kind of things was he emailing her about?
Fufu Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 It no longer matter what kind of mind games he wants to play, or what kind of mixed signals he wants to give. I had enough of my ex-bf's mind games and mixed signals as well. It drove me nuts and I had enough of them. Why are we thinking or missing someone that makes us - heartache - emotional break down - cried so much for them
AlisaMarie Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 It no longer matter what kind of mind games he wants to play, or what kind of mixed signals he wants to give. I had enough of my ex-bf's mind games and mixed signals as well. It drove me nuts and I had enough of them. Why are we thinking or missing someone that makes us - heartache - emotional break down - cried so much for them Probably because the good times that we had with them are what we hold on to... I know I think of his cute face, the nice things he did for me, and things we did together. But that's gone now. Sometimes I think that they are just as much of victims because they are obviously confused to going back and fourth. I mean, who would intentionally want to hurt us? Fufu, I just don't know how to focus on anything else but him right now.
Author ginastar Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 yea ive tried telling myself hes a jerk and this and that. but u miss what he was when u were with him. now hes a mess obv. too but at least he has a distraction while im a mess, bored, and lonely.
AlisaMarie Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 yea ive tried telling myself hes a jerk and this and that. but u miss what he was when u were with him. now hes a mess obv. too but at least he has a distraction while im a mess, bored, and lonely. Well my ex thought that I have been having a great time going out and going to sporting events. And I have been, but it's so forced. He said- yeah... you're not sitting at home crying your out living your life and doing things you should've done with me! BUT HE LEFT ME! I made the mistake of telling him that even though I do things I am still left crying and sick feeling. He said yeah right, but we all know that it's true.
Author ginastar Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 but dont let him know that. u want him to think ur fine without him. it makes someone more attractive
poorguy Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I just noticed this thread. My ex GF drives by my house when she has a new boyfriend and I really don't get why she does this. I would think at first it's because she misses me or something but I'm not sure. I drove by her house a couple times last summer and it was because I wasn't over her at all
AlisaMarie Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I just noticed this thread. My ex GF drives by my house when she has a new boyfriend and I really don't get why she does this. I would think at first it's because she misses me or something but I'm not sure. I drove by her house a couple times last summer and it was because I wasn't over her at all My ex admitted to driving past my house to see if my car was there on the weekends and whatnot. One time he showed up at my house while I was out with my friends and they drove so my car was in front of my house. He couldn't understand why I wasn't answering the door. He accused me of being in the bathroom screwing someone. REAL NICE! I don't know why we all keep torturing ourselves. Should I block his number? I am scared that I will never know if he tries to contact me.
poorguy Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 If I were you I would stop talking to him. I wouldn't block his number-just don't respond and don't drive by his house. If he cares whether he will admit it or not if you ignore him in time it will drive him crazy and in that same time you'll feel better so talking to him won't be that big of a deal..Thank you for replying to my thread by the way because my ex drives by my house and I wasn't sure why lol
AlisaMarie Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 If I were you I would stop talking to him. I wouldn't block his number-just don't respond and don't drive by his house. If he cares whether he will admit it or not if you ignore him in time it will drive him crazy and in that same time you'll feel better so talking to him won't be that big of a deal..Thank you for replying to my thread by the way because my ex drives by my house and I wasn't sure why lol Why do you say not to block his number? Wouldn't that be easier? He knows I can't ignore him. The longest I ignored his texts was like a week. Oh the things I would do different... but now it's like he knows I am a doormat.
poorguy Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I just said don't block him because I didn't block her and what happened was when I got past the first month of not responding to her it made me feel even better when I would see her text me knowing I wasn't going to respond..Kinda stupid but I then knew I had the power back
AlisaMarie Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I just said don't block him because I didn't block her and what happened was when I got past the first month of not responding to her it made me feel even better when I would see her text me knowing I wasn't going to respond..Kinda stupid but I then knew I had the power back Ok, well the reason why I text him last time was because he wasn't texting me. I feel like it may be better if I just don't know. Because... what if he never contacts me again? Ouch... this really sucks. I wish I could go to sleep and a year would just go by.
poorguy Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 If blocking him is what you feel like you need to do then do it. I was just saying it eneded up helpingme knowing she was trying to get me to give in and talk to her....Whatever you do STOP talking to him though no matter what you have to do to accomplish that
Author ginastar Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 she probably drives past ur house cause shes not over u. i mean it also could be that she was bored, but either way she was still thinking about you. i drove past my ex's house to see if hes with this new girl, which i knew about anyway, but didnt know how serious they were. i feel like if ur with a girl on the holidays its pretty serious.
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