Mellisa Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Hey guys,i need a help looking into the situation. Well, actually there isnt any big situation going on,more like a left over of a fling.The history was i once went out with this brit who turned out was leaving and he told me that after our third date.It was nothing serious between us and we both knew it was only a fling.I had seen him another two times after that where the last time we tried to have sex but it didnt happen.He wanted to try it again but i said no through sending him an email.I knew he was leaving in a few days so i wrote him that email to give it a closure.He left the city and started traveling around the country before leaves for good.So basically he's out of the picture since i know i'm not gonna be able to see him anymore.It wasnt hard at all and i didnt miss him except for the few times i got some texts from him once in a while asking about how i was and told me where he was and that he missed me and thought of me...When he left the city, i thought that was it and i didnt expect him to try to keep in touch with me..I have no problem at all dealing with the fact that he left but the in coming texts from him once in a while?I'm not so sure..I just think he'll do me a favor by not contacting me anymore now that we wont see each other again..I got it that it didnt meant to be and he wasnt really into me,but with those texts,he's acting like he still in some way cares about me or could it be me still under any illusion? It just that for me, i see things in black and white,if you dont like me enough,walk away and spare me those being nice and keep in touch rituals...I just dont like how it got me think of him with those texts while i can spend most of the time not really think about him.Everytime i thought "we" had died off, i got a text from him to refresh my memory again and got me think maybe he might cares about me...I dont do well with the bs like"How are you,i care about you,i miss you blah blah..."I do well with the "I'm a jerk and off you go byebye":mad: It doesnt bother me major times but still i just think it would be easier if he had stoped contacting me... So should i read anything into this? I'm just a little wondering what does he want honestly with those texts?
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I get those kinds of text from my ex, and it drives me nuts. When we first split up, she would text me about once a week. It made me think that she might have changed her mind and wanted a reconciliation. After a month I cracked and called her up, and she talked to me as if we'd never even been in a relationship. Since then, she still texts but the frequency gets less and less. There was a two month gap between the last couple. I called her again and asked her if she wanted to meet up. I left if with her (she said yes but needed to check her availability) and never heard from her. What I think is going on is that this person is simply stoking their ego by sending you texts. It's not a genuine attempt to re-establish anything at all.
Author Mellisa Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 I get those kinds of text from my ex, and it drives me nuts. When we first split up, she would text me about once a week. It made me think that she might have changed her mind and wanted a reconciliation. After a month I cracked and called her up, and she talked to me as if we'd never even been in a relationship. Since then, she still texts but the frequency gets less and less. There was a two month gap between the last couple. I called her again and asked her if she wanted to meet up. I left if with her (she said yes but needed to check her availability) and never heard from her. What I think is going on is that this person is simply stoking their ego by sending you texts. It's not a genuine attempt to re-establish anything at all. That was an awful thing to do...I'm glad i didnt jump up to feed his ego.Just told him how i was and wished him well,polite and simply like to a long lost friend.
nice-easy-day Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 It sounds like you're never going to see him again right? If that is the case just cut him off and let it go. As far as to why he's doing this.... well I'm the type of guy that would do this very thing. I do it out of hope and fantasy. I always want to hold out hope that there is a small chance things might work out and I don't want to completely burn the bridge. I also like the fantasy! If you almost had sex then I'm sure he still thinks about you and a little text back from you can really spark some emotions inside. He's using you to hold on to feelings that he felt when he was with you. With that said, I'm sure he does miss you a little. His sincerity is the question.
Author Mellisa Posted November 27, 2010 Author Posted November 27, 2010 It sounds like you're never going to see him again right? If that is the case just cut him off and let it go. As far as to why he's doing this.... well I'm the type of guy that would do this very thing. I do it out of hope and fantasy. I always want to hold out hope that there is a small chance things might work out and I don't want to completely burn the bridge. I also like the fantasy! If you almost had sex then I'm sure he still thinks about you and a little text back from you can really spark some emotions inside. He's using you to hold on to feelings that he felt when he was with you. With that said, I'm sure he does miss you a little. His sincerity is the question. Why does he need to hold on to those feelings if there was any?I just dont think it meant much to him so i let it go pretty fast...how things might work out? By him texting me once in a while in the hopes of what? If you are into me, you should find a way to make it work(and that way is not through sending text messages) instead of hope that there is a small chance things might work out.And what exactly is your fantasy?
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