notreallyme Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I met a guy at a club and we were both from out of town, we had a great time together and ended up having a one night stand. In passing he said if I was ever in his town that we could get together again. Now we're friends on facebook, but haven't kept in touch except for a couple of messages. I know this will never go anywhere, but would it be crazy to try and hook up with this guy again? I had such a good time with him and would love to see him again. Do you think he would think it was strange if I said I was going to be in his town and would he want to hang out again? I guess the worst that could happen is he could say no or just ignore the question. So confused!! Haven't had a one night stand in years and don't really know what to do. Thanks for any advice!
Author notreallyme Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 Why would it be crazy to wanna hook up with him again? I don't get it. If he wants a NSA relationship with you, and if he knows that you know that it will be nothing more than NSA, then you automatically have his permission to sleep with him. He's a guy, of course he's gonna want to hook up with if you're down for it. It's not as if he's gonna feel offended or disgusted that you're only using him for sex. Think about it. If that guy called you days after meeting him at a club and sleeping with him, it would be just for sex. I mean, he'll disguise it with some small talk first, but ultimately he would want to know if you're down for a good time. So you'll be doing the same thing he would've done had he called you first. Men don't feel degraded if some girl who he hooked with from a night club called him soon after to see if he wants sex. Call him, make some small talk just to warm up for the punchline and then tell him why you really called him. If he happens to have a date with another girl on the same night that you want to see him, he'll cancel that to be with you if he feels that girl #1 won't put out. The worse that can happen is that he would say no, like you said. If he says no AND if he makes no attempt to reschedule it for another day, then I'm afraid he's not into you. Even though that's a possibility, I'll be surprised if that happened. If you want to see the guy, pick up the phone and dial him. This will be the easiest call you'll ever make. For him, he would be more nervous about calling you because he might feel that you woke up the following morning, having regret sleeping with him or something along those lines that men don't really dwell on. By the way, make sure he wears a condom. I want everyone to be safe while having reckless fun! Thanks for the response. The main thing that concerned me is that he's out of town and I would have to fly to get there...thought he might think it's weird that I would be willing to go to so much trouble. I think I may just be over thinking it. lol
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