sdarren40 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I'm not coping well...at all. Since I'm desperate, I've decided to look at myself in the mirror 30 minutes a day and talk to myself. I talk about why I'm better off without him, why I should not stop living my life, why I deserve to be happy etc. I feel ridiculous for doing this....but I don't know what else to do. I have moments of extreme panic where I have no one else to talk to. So I talk to myself... Am I becoming mental?
forestofcheem Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I talk to myself all the time. I don't see anything wrong with it if you find that it helps to figure things out. But it's a concerning that you have extreme panic and no one to talk to about this. If there's anyone you feel comfortable talking about your break up with, I'd really suggest that you do. If not, there are consulars available on hotlines who are there to help. Break-ups are hard and they do take time to heal from.
Gt.ooh Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 No family, friends?? U can always post here..but if you have no one, I'd definitely suggest counciling
amy12344 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I do that in the car sometimes while driving... but probably only for 5 minutes. At least you are saying POSITIVE affirmations. I would explore some counselors or hotlines tho because it's always good to hear different opinions and perspectives. How long has it been since the break-up?
thatsonlyme Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I talk to myself all the time! I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Don't worry about being mental, you wouldn't know it even if you were Sometimes I'm just thinking out loud, but sometimes I get in front of the mirror and have a positive talk about myself, I like what I see and I'm happy with who I am, and man, my self esteem is higher than ever! As for you being desperate, maybe try a different approach when you talk to yourself. Put more positive thoughts into words, instead of saying "I shouldn't stop living my life" say something life "Life is great, it's so good to be alive". Don't think and talk about her, talk about yourself. Tell yourself how attractive you are and mean it! Then go out armed with positive attitude and see how people's reactions change towards you. Maybe it's just my imagination, but those girls in Starbucks give me bigger smile, I talk to people with such ease now and this boosts my self esteem even more! I think our minds are very powerful and positive thinking and talking is the best way to become positive person!
AlisaMarie Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Sometimes I look in the mirror and reinact everything I should have said. Or what I would say if I run into him in 2 years...etc. It's kind of an ego booster. Don't worry, your not going mental... sometimes your friends get sick of hearing it and in therapy.. ya get the times up when you're just getting to the good part. Talk away in the mirror, but don't forget to mention how wonderful and beautiful you are! It's not all about him.
Fufu Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 It's normal to do it.. infact I think it's a positive mindset. When I felt down or start to miss me, I will lie on my bed, hug my bolster and self-talk to myself. " He's not worth my love. I deserve better." over and over again.
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Sometimes I look in the mirror and reinact everything I should have said. Or what I would say if I run into him in 2 years...etc. It's kind of an ego booster. Don't worry, your not going mental... sometimes your friends get sick of hearing it and in therapy.. ya get the times up when you're just getting to the good part. Talk away in the mirror, but don't forget to mention how wonderful and beautiful you are! It's not all about him. This is what I do. Mirror conversations with yourself are the best! I always feel so relieved after talking to myself. It's normal... it's just saying your thoughts out loud. Sometimes things begin to make more sense when you talk them through rather than just think them.
Eeyore79 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I talk to myself. I talk to the dog too. Sometimes I reply on his behalf and we have a conversation
chocha_mocha Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I talk to myself far too much. If I have alot on my mind, sometimes I'll do it without even realising when walking down the street - gets me some very funny looks:laugh:
Gt.ooh Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 I talk to myself. I talk to the dog too. Sometimes I reply on his behalf and we have a conversation Guilty I've done this a bit myself..I don't see anything wrong with it
nittanylion Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 I'm not coping well...at all. Since I'm desperate, I've decided to look at myself in the mirror 30 minutes a day and talk to myself. I talk about why I'm better off without him, why I should not stop living my life, why I deserve to be happy etc. I feel ridiculous for doing this....but I don't know what else to do. I have moments of extreme panic where I have no one else to talk to. So I talk to myself... Am I becoming mental? No, you are not crazy. Its good to let it out your anger and steam. Its normal. It's nothing wrong looking into the mirror, and admire yourself. Its all good babe.
sedgwick Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 No crazier than I am for still talking to my ex out loud every single day since he left me 3.5 years ago! I still tell him out loud that I love him, I still say good night and good morning, and I say "I'm sorry" at least a half dozen times a day. I wish I could stop, but I've kind of just given up on it at this point.
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