Livelovelearn Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Hello LSers, It has been about 7 months since the ex broke up with me, and in a way cheated on me but Im coming to realize he did try to end it with me before, so that he could pursue the relationship with the girl he had in mind. Anyway, we dated for almost 3 years with one break up in between. I met a new guy and we were sort of dating for about 5-6 months. Thats not going well as I realize he isnt the one for me. But i still miss my exboyfriend. We didnt have contact for about 3 months, then i made the mistake of reaching out to him. We talked met up couple times and maintained contact (low contact) throughout with minor arguments. I know he did love me, but when he broke up with me he was going through so much and he told me he didnt feel the same but of course he didnt!!he was so stressed at the time(mother illness,no job/car)! Anyway when we talk, it just seems as if im obviously still in love, or atleast have strong feelings for him, but i feel like i cant read him.When we are together i feel he is still interested but he said he cant stand the headaches of a relationship. Im so confused, why do i still want him (well he was my first love) but its like i cant move on, and i have tried!!My friends are boring and all busy with school, and everyone else is busy with life. I'm in school but honestly i wouldnt consider that to be fun so its not a distraction for me, and i do go to the gym sometimes.Nothing seems to help alot, only just a little. Anyone have similar experiences?..what to do?
Adi Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Hey, your first love is hard too get though, 7 months aint that long, you will feel like this for a while yet, but you will be ok, i would say that cause you dated quite soon sometimes your feeling are surpressed, and now you are having too deal with them. One thing you should no, when you think about your ex now, you think of how it was, forget that its gone, if you got back today or next month, you would never feel the same way about him, so remember you are getting though the worst now. Good luck x
Author Livelovelearn Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 Hey Thanks for your Reply Adi. I appreciate the time you took to respond to this. It's true I know i wont feel the same, though i feel for him, its not as strong as it used to be obviously because he hurt me. I am trying im almost through the day of not talking to the other guy. I am trying to prove to myself that I dont need anyone right now. Its easier to drop the other guy and he hasnt do anything like my ex did..its just so hard to let go of all i really knew, the one that taught me what "love" is. Hmmm thanks for your time, I sure hope it gets better
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