AlisaMarie Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Yes, I was weaker than ever. I went out with my on again off again (off now) for drinks last night. I was sucked into the romance and the I love yous... the talk of what might be, and of course he came home with me. I don't think he has told me he loved me more in our year and a half relationship. When he left in the morning, he said "we will see what happens, I have a lot going on." God if I ever hear that again I could DIE! We will see what happens? Really? Why don't you just tell me what's going to happen? I don't know how to remove myself from him and it's torture. Somebody... anybody... advice, moral support. I know...ignore his texts, go out with friends, but I can't and I don't know why! He has a pull on my what is my problem? I am sooooo pissed.
Author AlisaMarie Posted November 25, 2010 Author Posted November 25, 2010 While I am sitting with my family I get about 5 texts of how last night was fun but can't happen again. We have to go our separate ways. You're a great girl and the future may hold something for us. I love you and can't let you go... but can't let you in. Happy effin Thanksgiving! Does anyone have some serious tips to heal fast? I have been broken for over 4 months and every time it feels worse and worse. Please help.
Graceful Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 I don't know what you've tried to do to break away from the hold this man has on you, but you needed to hit bottom, and hopefully this is really it. I have seen many, many people do what you have done, allowed someone to manipulate you, and get more and more hurt from it, with a sense of defeat and anger afterwards. You need a STRONG support system, a friend, or a therapist, and a program to keep you on track and away from him. It's almost like an addiction for you and you need to treat him like a BAD HABIT you need to break. You need to BUILD UP your self esteem. He knows he can walk all over you b/c you have let him, and b/c your self esteem has plummeted b/c of the way he treats you. There is nothing to gain from being with him, you are only a booty call, and every time you allow this, you lose self-respect. You cannot allow it. Do some reading, look online and get some books that will help you, seek therapy, keep a journal and resolve yourself to cut him out of your life once and for all. If you do not see this as something that is within your power, you do need help, and that's ok. This is a very difficult obsession to get over, and you need help in your 3D life, not just online. Sorry you are going through this, I really am. No one but a real creep would text you on Thanksgiving to say something like that ... can't you see that? Take care.
Author AlisaMarie Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 Thank you Graceful, I just feel like crap and needed to vent. My prob is codependency. I think love will prevail and I will win the war with my man by my side. All I ever wanted was a great guy to share my time with. When I think I have him- it's the same breakup phrases over and over again. Yeah, I gave him too many chances...and I would do it all over again. Why? I have no clue. I do go to therapy, read a ton of books, type out stuff online, talk to friends but you're right- it's an addiction because the only thing that makes me feel better is him, and he's the cause of my broken state. It just doesn't make sense. Thank you for being kind, and stern.
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