unloved10 Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 I've come here for support. I am going insane. My husband of 15 years recently left. Our relationship has been rocky for a while but we always got through everything. He was very stressed and overwhelmed with mortgage and bills. I was a stay at home mom until a year ago when he opened up a business and I worked without pay to support it while he kept his other job. Our fight started because I caught him having a drink with a women he does business with, later I found they were texting. Make story short I confronted women, husband apologized and asked me to leave it alone, lets move on. Well, I couldnt leave it alone and brought it up. He then got very upset and left. Its been almost two weeks. I've seen him once and talked to him twice about our relationship. We talked about issues in our past and how he was tired, didnt want this anymore and how I wasn't supportive. I told him I still loved him and that we should give our marriage another chance but he said he has been trying. I know in my heart its over. I was so angry when he said he doesnt love but deeply cares about me. I was so angry I told him I was going to start selling the furniture in our home and told him I want him to give me the legal separation papers. He said he was working on it and not to sell the furniture. I'm here now in our home that we are about to sale because he cant afford mortgage anymore and everything reminds me of him. He told me to stay in the house until we sale because he couldn't afford mortgage and a apartment for me and the kids. It also makes me mad that he hasn't made an effort to come spend time with the kids. He only calls when they call. He did say that he would always take care of us. I am so depressed, cant eat lost 11lbs in one week. I am in desperate need of counseling. I feel like im going crazy. I had some hope that he would come back but his actions and words tell me different. I am still so in love with him and cant imagine my life without him. He has completely destroyed me. It's not fair that im here suffering while he's out doing who knows what. I know I have to start thinking about separating, but how does that work? Will he have to pay child support and alimony? It just doesn't make sense to me, why sale the house if he will be paying the same amount for an apartment for us and himself. Whatever the case is this is affecting our kids so much and worry about them. He is tearing our family apart. It's not right.
tobydog Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Oh I am so sorry to hear this story, it mirrors my own situation very much. Mine left us 10 weeks ago and for the first few weeks, I fell apart and had a breakdown. Now with some anti depressants I am starting to feel a little stronger. Other than that I can't much more than some people who cannot cope just run away like mine did. It is not right that our families are torn apart, they just don't see it that way. Take carex At least you have talked, mine has not talked to me, his son has been very poorly this week and he has not responded at all. How's that for a supposed grown up?
amy12344 Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 My husband of 7 years is still in the house but broke up with me two days ago, saying it is DEFINITELY OVER. He is aloof and acting like he hasn't a care in the world. I can't eat or sleep and am hurting tremendously. He isn't showing any sympathy or hesitation. He is a coward. How dare he crumble a complete family. I told him that relationships take work and effort, and that everyone has flaws, and we need to communicate, but he just gave up. He is "DONE" (his word). Try and be strong in front of the kids. I know you have to put on a huge act - once my youngest goes to bed and is asleep, that's when I let it all out and fall apart.
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