worlybear Posted November 25, 2010 Share Posted November 25, 2010 Can somebody please explain to me how my STBXH can turn his back on his own children, especially his 9 yr old daughter and raise the OW's similarly aged daughter instead? Has he no shame? (I know he has no heart.) I am really p****d off , watching our daughter's face as her friends were all picked up from gym club by their Dads. She shrugs it off but I am really wound up by this- he has made minimal effort to keep in touch and it maddens me! How can he do this-especially as he is a primary school teacher!!! I would love to plaster his name and what I think of him all over his new school premises and wish I was brave enough (or stupid enough) to do it! I am desperate to contact him to ask him so posted here instead as it will not change the situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Red Posted November 30, 2010 Share Posted November 30, 2010 Can somebody please explain to me how my STBXH can turn his back on his own children, especially his 9 yr old daughter and raise the OW's similarly aged daughter instead? Has he no shame? (I know he has no heart.) I am really p****d off , watching our daughter's face as her friends were all picked up from gym club by their Dads. She shrugs it off but I am really wound up by this- he has made minimal effort to keep in touch and it maddens me! How can he do this-especially as he is a primary school teacher!!! I would love to plaster his name and what I think of him all over his new school premises and wish I was brave enough (or stupid enough) to do it! I am desperate to contact him to ask him so posted here instead as it will not change the situation. You're not alone. I'm in the same situation except my Estranged H's married woman won't even let her kids know he exists. So, it's just him and his woman that he spends all his time with. It breaks my heart to see no contact between my EH (new acronym LoL) and our son. I just don't understand how they can go without contact with their child. Especially since my EH's father abandoned him and he never knew him. I thought for sure he would try to be a good father because of that. I used to encourage my kid to contact his father when he didn't hear from him. I told him that even though it shouldn't be him keeping in contact that I wanted him to be able to look back someday and realize that HE did everything he could to have a relationship with his father. And one day he told me, "Mom forget it. Don't even waste your time telling me that. I've come to the conclusion that his priorities are the following: himself, his girlfriend and then me. I know he doesn't want anything to do with me & I've accepted it." It broke my heart. One thing I am really fortunate for is my EH's best friend knows what an ass he is and how my kid needs a man in his life. He keeps in contact with him and takes him out to events on a regular bases. And, he lets him know he's always available whenever he needs to talk. I don't understand how parents can abandon their children. It's more prevalent in men but, my EH's girlfriend did it to her kids to be with my EH. She won't tell them about him but she left to be with him (and they've moved out of town over 100 miles away). I really don't know how she pulls that off. But then again, I'm getting the info from my EH & he's known for rarely telling things accurately. All we can do is be the best parents we can on our own. When they grow up, they will know we were the ones that were always there for them. Link to post Share on other sites
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