lovebitme Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 I've been talking with a girl for about 6 weeks now. Couple of dates, texting, phone calls ect. To be honest, she doesn't make much time to see me but everything else is going fine. It's just going slow and I'm not sure if I'm wasting my time or not. Now, I know most people in here are only for relationships that take off like a rocket. Truth is, I'm all for taking things slow. Maybe this girl is too? We are both in our 30's and I'm starting to realize that older, more mature people don't always jump in with both feet. Am I right about this? We had a very minor spat about how I felt that I wasn't seeing her enough and after that I told her I'm willing to be friends without hopes of anything romantic. Then I went No Contact. A week later she comes back and acts like nothing ever happened. Same flirty self. So now what do I do? I think I should still back off a little and just let her pursue for awhile now. Please Help. Thanks.
Author lovebitme Posted November 25, 2010 Author Posted November 25, 2010 I guess what I'm digging for is, if it's totally out of the question to have a relationship develop from "friends first". Not to be confused with "just friends". I think "friends first" has a higher success rate than what most people want to admit. The success comes when you decide the person isn't right for you. Hopefully you don't have your soul invested and emotions deeply involved. You can part ways and nobody gets hurt. In theory. How many times do you see on this board people who date a few weeks, everything goes great, they have sex, 'meet the parents' and then it falls apart. You could accomplish the same thing by taking it slow IMO and without the tough breakup. Fast or slow you just have to go with the flow. That's what I'm doing here. Going with the flow, but most people would say to launch because it isn't going fast enough. So, I just want to make sure I'm not doing something completely foolish because it does seem to me I'm getting dangerously close to the friend zone.
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