rebellion Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 hi! i have been seeing this guy from work. let's call him...B. anyway, we have been texting nonstop in between dates and overlapping shifts, and when we're together, the conversation just flows. i'm 21 and pretty inexperienced with dating in general, so this has all been new to me & it's great and exciting, but frightening at the same time! anyway. we kissed for the first time earlier this week. a third date has been brought up, but not wanting to come across as overeager, i'm going with the flow. which brings me to a text i received from him yesterday: [girl from work] forced me to go to mcdonald's with her. i'm...at loss. he's told me i'm hard to read and he doesn't know if i like him. but then, we've been doing so good! and now this! is it a date? is he dating other people? we're not exclusive, but is it good practice to tell one girl you're dating that you're going out with someone else? or is he just telling me to be straight with me and not have me hear from someone else? and does this mean we're over? this girl has said on her facebook that she's sick of being single and wants to get out there again. he's a year younger than me, and she's a year younger than him. i think that this is her way of coming on to him and...help!!
phineas Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 he's told me i'm hard to read and he doesn't know if i like him Have you told him that you like him?
Eclypse Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 I don't think it's an overly big deal. I still go hang out with other girls, and my gf goes to the mall etc with guys now and then. Unless he said it was a date then it probably wasn't. Also who would go on a first date to mcdonalds?!
xpaperxcutx Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Nobody can force anybody to do anything they don't want to do. If he's having a date with another girl, so be it, although I don't understand why anyone would call eating at a fast food restaurant a date. Besides you guys only been on two dates- its too short of a time for you to be head over heels. And it's really immature of him to try to make you jealous.
Author rebellion Posted November 25, 2010 Author Posted November 25, 2010 Have you told him that you like him? how do i do that after only two dates? i mean, how do i say that without coming on too strongly? i thought that i was showing it when i texted him nonstop & then we kissed this week... isn't it obvious that i do?! I don't think it's an overly big deal. I still go hang out with other girls, and my gf goes to the mall etc with guys now and then. Unless he said it was a date then it probably wasn't. Also who would go on a first date to mcdonalds?! i don't mean it as in like, "he's going out with another girl?! what?!" i mean, it's only been two dates. but what was he doing, texting me that? is it like a "i'm just letting you know" thing or...? i kind of assumed we were exclusive because we work together and because it seems to be going so well, but maybe it's not. how do i open the subject and when is it the appropriate time to do so? i just really don't know how things work. i've gone out with a friend before, but we were really close so i didn't have any of these problems--i knew i could just tell him anything. now, dating someone i'm not great friends with first--this is new! Nobody can force anybody to do anything they don't want to do. If he's having a date with another girl, so be it, although I don't understand why anyone would call eating at a fast food restaurant a date. Besides you guys only been on two dates- its too short of a time for you to be head over heels. And it's really immature of him to try to make you jealous. i'm not saying i'm head over heels or claiming he's mine. i'm just confused as to what this is all about. is it a make me jealous tactic? just letting me know it's no big deal? ...he's seeing someone else? and more importantly, do i bring it up with him?
veggirl Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Sounds like he was telling you so that you wouldn't find out from someone else and be mad. And he was wording it in a way to make you believe he is not interested in her. Whether he is interested in her or not is unknown but honestly I wouldn't worry about this. They went to McDonalds. If they went to...I don't know....a bed & breakfast, then you could be concerned lol. Don't worry about it
Author rebellion Posted November 25, 2010 Author Posted November 25, 2010 thank you i would be kind of jealous if it were a date, but it's only been two for us, so it's not like he's unavailable yet. i can understand that he still retains the right to date other girls. still, no one can blame me for wishing it's just me :)
Star Gazer Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Sounds like he was telling you so that you wouldn't find out from someone else and be mad. And he was wording it in a way to make you believe he is not interested in her. Whether he is interested in her or not is unknown but honestly I wouldn't worry about this. They went to McDonalds. If they went to...I don't know....a bed & breakfast, then you could be concerned lol. Don't worry about it This. Plus, you have to remember that until you're exclusive, you can't really get upset if he does go on a date with someone else. You can and should do the same.
Author rebellion Posted November 25, 2010 Author Posted November 25, 2010 ^ i get that. still, i'm hoping he's not dating OTHER girls we work with.
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