Should I contact this guy again?

[wondergirl_6]

I met this lawyer guy online and we had long and good email conversations which I have to say is the best among all guys I talked to online in the past month. He's also the first guy I met in person, but unfortunately he didn't look as fun as he sounded in emails! Well, it might also be the fact that he had a late night before the date, but anyways, we chatted during lunch and coffee for 5 hours, and he wanted to meet again. I was a bit disappointed but overall he was a decent guy and wasn't "after one thing".

 

But I was busy in the following week so we tried to schedule a date in the week after, but then we realized we had to make it to the week after that since our schedules totally didn't match, which is last week. He said in his last email "Awww nuts. Well, yeah, I guess there's the week after next. Yeah, just let me know how your schedule works out and we can try to figure something out". And that was almost 3 weeks ago.

 

I was seeing a doctor during this process and thought it's a good match, so I didn't contact this guy, but things didn't work out with the doctor and I think maybe I should give me and this first guy a shot. Should I contact him again? How can I phrase my email?

[Tim The Enchanter]

Yeah, why not? You'd both discussed how busy you both were, so it's not like he would have been thinking that you'd flaked out on him. However, I don't understand why you can't just call him. After all, you have met him now, so there's no real need for email any more. If you can't bring yourself to call, at least drop him a text. Just say "hi it's me. Hope you're doing well. I'm free this week/next week, would you like to meet up again?"

 

Something like that.

[wondergirl_6]

^Thanks! Well...if I put myself in his position, I guess if I met a guy once and we failed to schedule a 2nd date and I told him to "just let me know when you're free" and then have no contact for 3 weeks, now he shows up, I'd really like to read an email giving me some kind of "update"/explanation instead of pretending that nothing was wrong and asking me out right away. I was even thinking that I shouldn't ask him out immediately.

 

And it seems he's kind of "dull" in person but was more funny and smart in emails...

[Tim The Enchanter]

Well it's quite easy to be clever in emails, when you have time to think about what you're going to say. Of course, he could well have been nervous.

[musemaj11]

Doctor, lawyer, businessman, politician, engineer ,,,

[mortensorchid]

He might not be too receptive to your weeks of silence and then suddenly reappearing. Just so you might be ready for a lack of response from him once you do contact him. But, go ahead and try it if you really want to.