bkboy Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 hello - i was recently seeing a woman for 2 months, had an argument, and she decided she didn't want to date anymore. about a week and a half passed before she text me asking if we could still be friends. more specifically, she said she was shopping and wanted to ask me to come with, but didn't know if i wanted to hear from her. is it possible that she means this in a purely plutonic way? or does the time-frame suggest that she still has romantic feelings and is trying to feel out the territory? i'm trying to not be excited and think clearly about her gesture. I'd greatly appreciate any responses.
skydiveaddict Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 I'm betting she means what she says and only wants to be "friends". If you still have romantic feelings for her, I would NOT go shopping w/her, or anything else. Delete her from your life.
Author bkboy Posted November 25, 2010 Author Posted November 25, 2010 thanks skydiveaddict - i guess i was thinking that not enough time had elapsed for her romantic feelings to wear off. i definitely need to assume the worst, and wait for her next move before i can definitively understand her intentions.
skydiveaddict Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 You already know her intentions. She broke up with you. If she contacts you again, tell her to stay out of your life.
chryssy83 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 She was bored and missed having company while shopping. It's not about you. She wants the comfort of having SOMEONE without having to feel bad that she's leading you on. Unless you feel like YOU have no romantic feelings for her (which you obviously have, since you are posting here), you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak if you go along with her desire to be "just friends."
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