tti Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Ok this is a long one, be warned Back story: About 3-4 years ago I used to chat to this girl online... quite a bit. We became fairly close. We chatted quite a bit and really clicked. It was never really flirty or romantic. We stopped talking regularly about a year ago, partly because my GF at the time (understandably) didn't like me chatting to her, even though I let her watch the conversations we were having. We never met in person. She asked me once. I turned her down because I'd just started seeing my ex and she wouldn't have exactly been happy for me to meet a girl from the internet (even though I'd known her a year or more). We have chatted occasionally since, but very briefly. So today I see her online and say hi. We chat for about 20 minutes and then she just stops responding at all. About half hour later while I'm away she messages me back saying she was "in a meeting at the time". I have no idea if this is true or if she just didn't want to talk to me. (Though why wouldn't she just say she has to go?) then logs off. She came back online a few minutes after I got back, so I said "welcome back" to no response. Then her status changed to away and back to online a few times. I left her alone after that and logged off about 30 minutes later. She's giving me incredibly mixed signals! She pretty much came out and asked me if I was single while we were chatting. She broguht it up by saying "How's your girlfriend?". There was never anything romantic between us... but I think that's maybe because we were never single at the same time. Though I'm not even sure if I want that as it would be a long distance relationship. Anyway... So, I'm trying to work out what the hell is going on here. I sort of get the impression she doesn't want to talk to me.. yet when she was talking she seemed really chatty. I think it's one of: She doesn't want to talk to me and just talked for a while out of courtesy (But surely she would have made an excuse before leaving...) I upset her before by turning her down and she realised she might be setting herself up for that again (Though if she did want to meet up now I would) so backed away. She's just got busy real life issues and cant talk She thinks the only reason I messaged her is because I'm single again and I'm trying to get with her. Any ideas? I'm thinking the latter, which is possibly partly true though I'd be happy just chatting online like we used to... but I'd like to date her just to see if there is any kind of romantic connection between us. Anyway, I'm just going to leave it a couple of days and message her if she's on again. I'm a bit confused! Any help/advice is welcome.
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