EyeAlone Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 So I've been dating a guy for a month and he is excellent! We get along great, he treats me very well, similar goals, same values, etc. I'm head over heels for this guy. But of course there has to be a problem; nothing can be perfect. He has tons of close female friends. I don't know the backstory behind all of them (ie. if they were ever interested in each other, dated, etc) and it's none of my business. I'm just really concerned because I've had an ex boyfriend in the past who also had lots of close female friends, and some of them made my life living hell. They definitely influenced the breakup because they would give me "warnings" about him, my ex would also compare me to them, and he was pretty much having an emotional affair with one of them. I know it's unfair to the guy that I'm dating right now to compare him to my ex boyfriend. But I'm so worried that the same sh*t is going to happen again. I keep telling myself that he picked ME and he's dating ME, but it doesn't calm my mind. To make me feel even worse, I feel very hypocritical for thinking these negative thoughts because I have more close male friends than female. I'm not attracted to any of them and if I was, I would be pursuing them right now and not dating the current guy. But I know guys think differently than girls. Can someone help me out here?
refurb Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 I know it's unfair to the guy that I'm dating right now to compare him to my ex boyfriend. Focus on that. RF
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