Husband keeps disappearing off to Wisconsin for unknown reasons...

[valuxha]

I'm 44, my husband's 46, and we have a 22-year-old daughter and a 19-year-old son. I work in distribution of automobiles and my husband is an IT/software engineer, and support service technician. We've been married for 23 years now.

 

We live in Phoenix, Arizona (best-known to many as the location of T.V. show Medium, with Allison DuBois)

 

My husband sometimes works away from home, but more recently it's that issue which has been causing concern for me.

 

He'd told me that his company had just got business dealings up in Wisconsin, and he'd been promoted to Area Manager for there, I was extremely happy to hear he'd been promoted and we celebrated by having a night out with our children at a local Mexican restaurant.

 

He said to me he'd be up in Wisconsin for 3 - 4 weeks and not to worry, he'd contact us every night.

 

Things were good up until last week... he went away for 3 weeks

 

I got a phone call off his manager last Tuesday asking why he hadn't been in work for the last 4 weeks, he's already used up 3 weeks of his annual leave this year. I said to him that he was in Wisconsin on a training course but his manager told me that the firm my husband works for does not have any bases in Wisconsin, nor trades there, and said he'd file an internal investigation into this unauthorised absence. His manager told me that the firm only trades with the bordering states of Utah, New Mexico, Colorado and Texas - the four ones bordering us. He said the firm has never worked with anyone in Wisconsin, nor traded there.

 

I immediately called his mobile phone but got no response from him, just a message saying "Please do not call. This is only for emergencies. Message will be ignored."

 

It's now been a further 2 weeks since he went away to Wisconsin, and I hired a private detective a week ago to find out what he was up to, it cost me a lot of money but was worth it.

 

I was paranoid he was with another woman, and I got the report back off the private eye.

 

The report shocked me - it told me how my husband had been seen eating alone at plenty of restaurants throughout Wisconsin, and going to sex shops there too, plus going into an expensive hotel as well.

 

The private detective told me that there was no evidence he was with another woman, and that he spent most of his time eating and drinking, and crossing over into Minnesota occasionally. What the hell was he doing there, and why?

 

I'm not sure if I should divorce him or not, but obviously he will have to play some part in my life, as he is the children's biological father and a good father to them too.

 

I need help in taking stock of the situation and coping; my mom has been a great help but is concerned about the situation and my children have been an enormous help with this.

 

It's an enormous worry for me, not knowing when/if he'll come back. I haven't got the police involved because I don't know if/when it needs it just yet.

 

Please help me cope with this, and give me some much-needed advice.

[Cee]

My advice- you may have a career in fiction writing. Are you writing a short story or a screenplay? I have fallen for your dramatic posts before, but this one is way out there. And contradicts your other posts.

 

You have written a fascinating mystery post. If you want to carry on with your story, go right ahead. I'm curious to see how this fictional tale ends. Perhaps, you can do a dramatic confrontation with him in Wisconsin, Cheaters style.

[theBrokenMuse]

It seems the OP has discovered the fountain of youth or a rapid aging method for both her and her hubby whom she calls a boyfriend in a different post since dependent upon which post you look at she's in her forties or her twenties. Learn to keep your stories straight if you are going to troll at least... sheesh!

[tinktronik]

It's strange how all the OP's posts have her identifying as different ages and marital statuses and yet she just keeps on posting.

[theBrokenMuse]

It's strange how all the OP's posts have her identifying as different ages and marital statuses and yet she just keeps on posting.

Yup, this person isn't even trying for pete's sake.

[Stung]

OP, please come back with the next installment, I cannot for the life of me imagine why a man would try to escape it all by going to Wisconsin. Curiouser and curiouser!

[goingstrong]

Troll??????

[KraftDinner]

Oh, OP -- this is the best one so far. Please continue with this one! I really want to know why he's going to WI.

 

The one where he wanted you to dress like Justin Bieber or Hitler was dumb but this one is good... keep it up.

 

I write short stories too, and sometimes enter contests. This one has a good hook I think.

[Kendrick]

I just read this and you're married and 44 and husband is 46, and in other threads you have started you are 20 something with a boyfriend, then in another one you're 30 something?? So how old are you really and do you have a boyfriend or are you married?? Or do you not know?

[quankanne]

I dunno, y'all – maybe she's posting under different multiple personalities? That's the only thing that could explain the age progression and varying scenarios ...

[freestyle]

Cheating Cheeseheads........!