Accepting personal responsibility

[desertIslandCactus]

I would think it impossible to have a REAL relationship if someone is on a forum every waking hour discussing said relationship. It seems there is more discussing of the relationship then there is actually HAVING it.

 

Would it be possible that much of this is just fantasy .. or an ER.

[bentnotbroken]

Don't make me go there, bent. In my country children are considered to be as well of whether they live with both their biological parents or not. The children would have absolutely no impact on whether I chose to have a relationship with a man or not.

 

 

Country of origin has nothing to do with the well being of children. Empathy not extended to their mother and their marriage isn't extended to the children that are effected by the lack of empathy. Yes, it has been well documented that others children mean nothing to you when it comes to the "love" you feel. And you can go or stay, makes no difference to me.

[Sidtheskid]

Why would a BS be in need of forgiveness from an AP?

 

That's not what I mean. Are you in need of forgiveness from someone else in your life? It isn't a linear concept. We are all guilty of sin and of needing forgiveness.

[bentnotbroken]

What is absurd is the insistance that there is no love in an affair. Love is love whether you have spent $10,000 on a wedding or not, yk? Love cannot be bargained for. All relationships are real.

 

Empathy is owed because we are human, not because we have a hierarchy of love. That is absurd.

 

:lmao::lmao:only when it suits the one extending it apparently.

[bentnotbroken]

That's not what I mean. Are you in need of forgiveness from someone else in your life? It isn't a linear concept. We are all guilty of sin and of needing forgiveness.

 

 

No I am only in need of forgiveness from God when I ask and stop the sin. Ultimately all I do wrong is a sin against God. If one chooses not to forgive me it is between them and God.

[desertIslandCactus]

What is absurd is the insistance that there is no love in an affair. Love is love whether you have spent $10,000 on a wedding or not, yk? Love cannot be bargained for. All relationships are real.

 

Empathy is owed because we are human, not because we have a hierarchy of love. That is absurd.

 

If the AP is M, it is more like desiring or coveting the one who is taken.

[Sidtheskid]

:lmao::lmao:only when it suits the one extending it apparently.

 

Don't know what you mean, but glad it made you laugh.

[WTFBBQ]

Would it be possible that much of this is just fantasy .. or an ER.

Posting here is good. It means they are not out having sex with someone else's husband! Keep on posting OW!

[Sidtheskid]

No I am only in need of forgiveness from God when I ask and stop the sin. Ultimately all I do wrong is a sin against God. If one chooses not to forgive me it is between them and God.

 

You missed my point. I asked whether you have done things that require forgiveness from others.

[Sidtheskid]

If the AP is M, it is more like desiring or coveting the one who is taken.

 

Again, please tell me in all your humanity, when you haven't sinned?

 

Is the OW sin greater than yours? We owe, and will be responsible to god then. To each other - we owe empathy and compassion.

[bentnotbroken]

You missed my point. I asked whether you have done things that require forgiveness from others.

 

 

I didn't miss your point. I have and will again. Still....I don't need their forgiveness. I only need God's. If they give it great....if not.....I am not

[jennie-jennie]

Posting here is good. It means they are not out having sex with someone else's husband! Keep on posting OW!

 

My MM is waiting for me right now. We'll have sex when I am done posting.

[desertIslandCactus]

posting here is good. It means they are not out having sex with someone else's husband! Keep on posting ow!

 

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[desertIslandCactus]

posting here is good. It means they are not out having sex with someone else's husband! Keep on posting ow!

 

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[bentnotbroken]

Again, please tell me in all your humanity, when you haven't sinned?

 

Is the OW sin greater than yours? We owe, and will be responsible to god then. To each other - we owe empathy and compassion.

 

 

I don't owe anyone anything who would hurt my kids because they feel it is okay because of a "feeling" that is a fleeting in some cases as the ache between one's legs.

[whichwayisup]

My MM is waiting for me right now. We'll have sex when I am done posting.

 

So you can go off topic when someone makes a crack, has nothing to do with this thread, yet I ask a question, which is kind of relative to this thread about your situation (why now all a sudden, since you use your situation for examples all over the place, you won't answer a genuine question from me?) and you say you don't want to go off topic...

[bentnotbroken]

So you can go off topic when someone makes a crack, has nothing to do with this thread, yet I ask a question, which is kind of relative to this thread about your situation (why now all a sudden, since you use your situation for examples all over the place, you won't answer a genuine question from me?) and you say you don't want to go off topic...

:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

[Sidtheskid]

I don't owe anyone anything who would hurt my kids because they feel it is okay because of a "feeling" that is a fleeting in some cases as the ache between one's legs.

 

I'm sorry you were hurt. I don't believe that most affairs are sex only. And, I fail to see how children are hurt by compassion and forgiveness.

[WTFBBQ]

Empathy is owed because we are human, not because we have a hierarchy of love. That is absurd.

Jeffrey Dahmer and Hitler were human too. Sorry I don't have empathy for them.

 

My MM is waiting for me right now. We'll have sex when I am done posting.

Is the sex that sub-par or did you just prove thorn's point?

[bentnotbroken]

I'm sorry you were hurt. I don't believe that most affairs are sex only. And, I fail to see how children are hurt by compassion and forgiveness.

 

 

I WAS(past tense) hurt. We heal. I do believe you fail to see.....

[Sidtheskid]

I WAS(past tense) hurt. We heal. I do believe you fail to see.....

 

I don't think god cares what "moral stance" we take. We are all imperfect and hurt one another daily whether we "see" it or not.

 

I think god wants to see us show the same compassion and empathy that "he" shows us. Anything less is not love.

[Sidtheskid]

Jeffrey Dahmer and Hitler were human too. Sorry I don't have empathy for them.

 

 

You should reflect on the fact that you are a part of the same. But for them, go YOU.

[bentnotbroken]

I don't think god cares what "moral stance" we take. We are all imperfect and hurt one another daily whether we "see" it or not.

 

I think god wants to see us show the same compassion and empathy that "he" shows us. Anything less is not love.

 

I see that you believe what you are saying. I also see your posts seem to support( I apologize if I am wrong) affairs...that isn't from God at all.

[desertIslandCactus]

I don't think god cares what "moral stance" we take. We are all imperfect and hurt one another daily whether we "see" it or not.

 

I think god wants to see us show the same compassion and empathy that "he" shows us. Anything less is not love.

 

To whom much is given, much is expected.

 

Although God ministers through the conscience or heart, still complacency is a sin - and we are responsible to speak what we know.

 

Once one is told the truth, they are pretty much accountable/responsible for their continued actions.

[WTFBBQ]

You should reflect on the fact that you are a part of the same. But for them, go YOU.

You should reflect on using your real identity. But if hiding behind a new one works for you, go YOU.