JohnnyBlaze Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 ...being a bisexual woman does not equate to me being promiscuous. Bingo! Well said, PC. This is what people seem to think is mutually exclusive to monogamy. If a straight person can forgo pursuit of one sex once they have found a romantic partner, there's nothing that says a bi person can't forgo pursuit of two sexes for the same reason. I dated a girl who was openly bi and although I obviously can't prove it (as I didn't monitor her movements 24 hours a day), I can say that I am absolutely confident that she never cheated on me, with either sex.
Author irc333 Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 (edited) ...being a bisexual woman does not equate to me being promiscuous. That's good to know, here's a sample profile of a Bi woman in what she is looking for something about to email her if you meet these criteria: Very open minded, Think tattoos are art Love Tupac and Marilyn MansonCan handle yourself in a strip joint (sorry, love strip joints) Aren't a huge pxssy Find yourself at Bike Week Are not too religious ,not a huge nerd not obsessed with sports I just noticed a common theme (this is just an example) of women having some kind of extracurricular activity that is "Hedonistic" in nature. The term "Aren't a huge pxssy" sounds like something a man would say, seems Bi women seem to ACT out in a more masculine/rowdy kind of "bad girl" way. On the brigher side She is HOT lol IN the "The first thing people notice about me" she has, "I don't even have to say it" as a response. LOL You could use her as a life raft if a ship was going down. ;-) Though I think Number 1 Stereotype for BI women is that IF they're married or have a boyfriend, and they strictly emphasize they're are ONLY looking for other women. Thus probably the idea of promiscuity. Edited November 26, 2010 by irc333
sagetalk Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 but would it make a difference to some of you or no? 4. They are not religious, even some Bi's are atheists Pigs will fly with wings before I'd date a Bi-sexual girl. 4 is a big reason for that, but overall it's just disturbing to me. If that's what they want to do, then it's their life. I just don't want my girlfriend to physically desire other women, bleh.
lso802 Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Doesn't matter to me. As long as she's into monogamy, I don't believe it would matter whether she's with a guy or girl.
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 with a single partner? Almost certianly yes. dude, that is totally untrue. That's the equivalent of saying, you will never be able to fulfill someone's sexual needs because there will always be someone more attractive than you, with a bigger penis than you and with better technique than you.
Author irc333 Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 I am also noticing STRAIGHT women trying to act "Bi", even fool around with other women, what's up with that? Is it a fad? lol
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 Straight Men, would you date a Bi Woman? That depends on how I got the news: If the woman told me she is "bisexual", she'd be prepping me for the eventuality that she's going to cheat, so no, why would I want to date someone like that? If instead I went into a bathroom stall and saw scrolled there: "___(woman I might date)____ is bisexual ", then I might date her until such time as she herself stated as much. Now of course there are lots and lots of people (both on and away from LS) who just thrive in relationships which include lots of cheating, so they're great for "bisexual" women. Just be ready for that stupid line: "... but I told you I was bisexual!"
Stung Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 That depends on how I got the news: If the woman told me she is "bisexual", she'd be prepping me for the eventuality that she's going to cheat, so no, why would I want to date someone like that? If instead I went into a bathroom stall and saw scrolled there: "___(woman I might date)____ is bisexual ", then I might date her until such time as she herself stated as much. Now of course there are lots and lots of people (both on and away from LS) who just thrive in relationships which include lots of cheating, so they're great for "bisexual" women. Just be ready for that stupid line: "... but I told you I was bisexual!" .......Wow.
sally4sara Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 If the woman told me she is "bisexual", she'd be prepping me for the eventuality that she's going to cheat, so no, why would I want to date someone like that? Now of course there are lots and lots of people (both on and away from LS) who just thrive in relationships which include lots of cheating, so they're great for "bisexual" women. Just be ready for that stupid line: "... but I told you I was bisexual!" Oh I've seen this scenario play out. But I never thought is was due to someone's sexual orientation so much as it was about their level of entitlement. This is the mindset of someone who is going to cheat no matter what gender(s) they find attractive.
Stung Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 Oh I've seen this scenario play out. But I never thought is was due to someone's sexual orientation so much as it was about their level of entitlement. This is the mindset of someone who is going to cheat no matter what gender(s) they find attractive. Agreed. I've seen that happen with bisexuals, just as I've seen it happen with straights and gays. "But I told you I was a free spirit...but I told you I was a party kid...but I told you I still had feelings for my ex...but I told you I needed to explore/find myself...blah, blah, blah." It's not about the sexual preferences of the person, it's about their character, or lack of it.
threebyfate Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 irc, you're obviously using a different username than prior. Are there any more preconceived prejudices against women that you'd like to slime slide into LS?
celsyus Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 To answer the question posed, yes. Personally, I hate it when straight girls 'go gay' once drunk or around throngs of men just to get attention. It's not cute, it's not sexy, it's contrived.
pickleB Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 I know I am a little late to this topic but it is a good one. I have dated a couple of bisexual women and I have to say that with one of them, it was the best relationship in so many ways. This wasn't just because she was bi but being bi was a facet of her personality which was 100% open and honest with her feelings. She didn't judge anyone for anything unless it involved others judging or hating. I agree with what someone posted that it is wrong to put all of those stereotypes on bi women because it demeans. Some of them are true and false for women who are straight and bi - it all depends on the person. I broke up with this woman 3 years ago for selfish reasons unrelated to her being bi and have regretted it ever since. I tend to be attracted to bi women now because I relate that they would be similar to my ex but not true...lol. I guess I stereotype too.
Sivok Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 3/4 of my girlfriend's were bi. They're no different than anyone else, they just have the capability to fall in love with a man or a woman. Like a straight person, once they fall in love with someone they stop looking. It's not like one day she'll go i'm bored of men, time to cheat on my bf with a chick. That's not how it works. Interms of dating mostly guys, my ex told me she'd have sex with a woman but wouldn't date one... Just because of the difficulties of making a longterm gay union work
sweet_peach115 Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 This is the stupidest thread I have ever read. I am bi-sexual and it does not prevent me from having relationships with men. When I am in a relationship with a man, I love him and no other. Same goes if I was in a relationship with a woman. We still have feelings and are still regular people. Get a life
Feelin Frisky Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 Depends upon what one means by "date". If it means hopes for a relationship then I wouldn't. I'm just a prudish old fashion guy at heart. If it means, she's a really hot someone who is really out about being bi and we are both clear that we're just going out or getting it on for the hell of the moment, I'm not so prudish and old fashion. In a serious relationship I have to know I'm someone's someone and not someone's some time number two. Just can't have it be a nagging question mark.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 ...Personally, I hate it when straight girls 'go gay' once drunk or around throngs of men just to get attention. It's not cute, it's not sexy, it's contrived. Agreed. And it could be wierder than that--sort of passive aggressive. I saw this program on the "Green Channel"--I think it was called 30 Days--where this straight guy from the Bible Belt agrees to live with this gay guy in San Fran for a month just for shi+s and giggles reality TV I guess. Everything was pretty predictable until this guy's "straight" freind visits from Kansas or where ever and then these two "straight" guys take off their shirts at a gay bar, get a little loaded and start dancing. Their act seemed to be that they were trying to entice guys and then prove how straight they were by suddenly rejecting if not getting violent with them. Kinda makes me wonder if something like that might not be in that straight girl acting gay once drunk thing--it's gotta be something more than "gee, let's both be gay for little while and then act like it never happened". Maybe the idea is just to provoke.
Knittress Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 I find this whole thread strange. My whole life I've been an open-minded 'good girl' and have recently been spending several years of unhappy celibacy mourning over a long term relationship that crashed. Then I ran into an old friend in the park and have spent the last month having wild sex with him AND his female neighbor on occasion. It's been great. I'm still the same person, but I know a lot of you LS-guys would look at me differently now. Maybe I'M 'a bisexual.' Pft. It's just weird that so many people are making a big deal over something like that. But I get the impression I probably wouldn't have been mentally compatible with a lot of people on here even when I WAS behaving in the perfect socially-approved manner.
Author irc333 Posted December 2, 2010 Author Posted December 2, 2010 Yeah, I don't know where this "wanna-be Bi even though I'm a straight woman" came from. Apparently, someone launched a trend of it bein "cool" to make out with another woman, when one is a straight woman. Guess it's an attention thing. At least Bi sexuals are set in their orientation. Agreed. And it could be wierder than that--sort of passive aggressive. I saw this program on the "Green Channel"--I think it was called 30 Days--where this straight guy from the Bible Belt agrees to live with this gay guy in San Fran for a month just for shi+s and giggles reality TV I guess. Everything was pretty predictable until this guy's "straight" freind visits from Kansas or where ever and then these two "straight" guys take off their shirts at a gay bar, get a little loaded and start dancing. Their act seemed to be that they were trying to entice guys and then prove how straight they were by suddenly rejecting if not getting violent with them. Kinda makes me wonder if something like that might not be in that straight girl acting gay once drunk thing--it's gotta be something more than "gee, let's both be gay for little while and then act like it never happened". Maybe the idea is just to provoke.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 I find this whole thread strange. My whole life I've been an open-minded 'good girl' and have recently been spending several years of unhappy celibacy mourning over a long term relationship that crashed. Then I ran into an old friend in the park and have spent the last month having wild sex with him AND his female neighbor on occasion. It's been great. I'm still the same person, but I know a lot of you LS-guys would look at me differently now. Maybe I'M 'a bisexual.' Pft. It's just weird that so many people are making a big deal over something like that. But I get the impression I probably wouldn't have been mentally compatible with a lot of people on here even when I WAS behaving in the perfect socially-approved manner. Perhaps you shouldn't internalize what people say on threads like this. It's all hypothetical--and reality tends to dictate other choices than what we make in theory. I don't see anyone making a big deal--just being honest about their theoretical preferences. If you're bi and fine with it, I'm sure you'll "get more" in the long run so you could take it that monogamous-minded persons are losing out if you just couch it that way.
Stung Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 (edited) If you're bi and fine with it, I'm sure you'll "get more" in the long run so you could take it that monogamous-minded persons are losing out if you just couch it that way. One of the major points so many people have been trying to make here is that bisexual and monogamous are NOT mutually exclusive. Hello, I'm Stung. I have been attracted to, dated, and engaged in sexual activity with both men and women. I have never been unfaithful, I am monogamy-minded and I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship. Edited December 3, 2010 by Stung
Feelin Frisky Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 One of the major points so many people have been trying to make here is that bisexual and monogamous are NOT mutually exclusive. Hello, I'm Stung. I have been attracted to, dated, and engaged in sexual activity with both men and women. I have never been unfaithful, I am monogamy-minded and I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship. I don't know how to take what you're saying so, I'll leave it. I was trying to be sensitive to how she felt since her post follwed mine and perhaps something I said prompted it. Maybe my secondary comment didn't come out right but to me it doesn't matter--in my scenario--whether someone has been monogamous with either one gender or the other at various time--it does not change the fact that such a person has introduced a question mark of preference and orientation that some folks like myself at my stage of life just don't want to have to have an issue whatsoever (theoretically). I was trying NOT to repeat and emphasis my original meaning because I sensed her feeling a bit put off that she's done some bi things and now is feeling like people are rejecting her out of hand on this thread by perhaps people like me. Hope we're all clear now. I just didn't want someone to be offended by me answering this hypotethical question honestly instead of either passing altogether or trying engender myself based up some PC contivance I don't really believe in.
Bryguy26 Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 I could never date a Bi woman, the fact that she can have sex with both men and women would drive me up the wall. Sorry ladies but if your Bi and looking for a man like me you'll just have to keep looking. I want the mother of my children to be completely hetero so I can look her in the eyes and not picture her doing stuff with butch lesbians or who ever she "experimented with". I already compete with men to get girls I don't need to compete with women to, thankfully studies indicate most women are hetero so that's a win for me. All the girls I know are straight and boy crazy so just speaking from experience.Thanks for taking the time to read!
gentlewaters Posted December 15, 2010 Posted December 15, 2010 I am absolutely capable of long-term monogamy, and I am happily and monogamously married to a man. I occasionally see a woman I find attractive, just as I occasionally see a man I find attractive--just as I am sure my husband sometimes sees women he finds attractive. How can you be monogamous and see another person? Do you mean you just see her as a friend, or do you mean see as in a love interest? If that is the case, then you do not have a monogamous relationship, right? And if your husband sees other women, then he is not monogamous either, right? Like animals who are not mated to just one partner for life, they are not "monogamous" in that sense. Or does that mean that you are just married to one guy, but within the realms of monogamy, it is possible to have additional lovers? Not judging or anything, I'm just confused and don't quite get this.
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