Username37 Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 It's been 6 months already. And I've been in this anger stage for 2 months. I'm really pissed at my ex. Her lack of empathy is crazy. The way she dumped me, the way she treated me post-break up, getting a new bf after saying she didn't want one. Does she have a heart? This is ****ing crazy. I feel lied to, used, and like a piece of garbage. She got a total ego boost hooking up with plenty of dudes and rejecting me. She thinks she's all that now and all her and her new boy do is make out and ****. I seriously think she's in this relationship just so she can do all this stuff without looking like a slut Just need to vent a little.
Fufu Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Anger is a good thing, but don't let anger drags you for too long too You can also think of this way, "Phew, I'm so blessed I'm no longer with her." Personally, I'm still at the stage where I still self-blame myself of contributing to the break up. But I know I will come to stage where I no longer give a hack whatever happens to his life.
Author Username37 Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 Anger is a good thing, but don't let anger drags you for too long too You can also think of this way, "Phew, I'm so blessed I'm no longer with her." Personally, I'm still at the stage where I still self-blame myself of contributing to the break up. But I know I will come to stage where I no longer give a hack whatever happens to his life. We had something good going on, just that, we had a stupid fight and she refused to talk it out. She was always suggesting talking a break, like we were Ross and Rachel from Friends or something (her favorite show lol) I was at that stage too. Every break up is not entirely your fault. They chose to leave and not try to work it out.
Ajax Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 It sounds like she's one of those people who gets off on the drama, and if there isn't any then she needs to make it herself. Anger is ok up to a point. Just don't get obsessed with it.
Thierro Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Funny. Remember 6 months ago how we signed up here on LS? Think about it; It has been 6(!) months since our SO broke up with us. It is hard to imagine how fast time goes by. I am going through a similar stage like you. I am not angry but I just don’t care anymore about anything at all. I am all about science; everything has an origin and every ‘why’ has a logical explanation. So why should I care about every negative aspect life throws at you? Everything is already explained in books. It’s all in your mind and you create the world as it is by thinking and believing. I even feel a bit of a resentment against women myself (I think both genders will go through this eventually) The only way to get out of your mess is altering your believes. Think about the sunshine; and it will come. But it’s hard, right? We all hide behind something because we don’t want to get hurt.
Adi Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Hey, i was there the other month, i could not drink, be with friends anything, she just mad my blood boil, all cause she was making lots of male friends and F****** them. My advice go no contact, dont ask about her, or bump into her, i feel good now, and i am starting too enjoy life. If you wont too get her back for making you angry, start enjoying yourself, thats the best way too get a x back dont be botherd by them, and a thing i kept thinking is, now she has slept around, things will never be right between us, so i do need too move on, if she sat at home for two years, you would wait for her lol good luck, and the anger will just go away overnight
Fufu Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Username37: Your ex-gf is kinda similiar to my ex-bf. Refused to talk it out on fights and quarrels. I think the most important now is to spend time on ourselves. I believe all of us have been in a relationship for a certain time frame till we forget to spare a thought for ourselves.
Author Username37 Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 My advice go no contact, dont ask about her, or bump into her, i feel good now, and i am starting too enjoy life. If you wont too get her back for making you angry, start enjoying yourself, thats the best way too get a x back dont be botherd by them, and a thing i kept thinking is, now she has slept around, things will never be right between us, so i do need too move on, if she sat at home for two years, you would wait for her lol good luck, and the anger will just go away overnight Yeah, I've been on NC since June. It's helpful I've been enjoying life and all of that, it's just that, she pops up like crazy and I continue to hear about her. It sounds like she's one of those people who gets off on the drama, and if there isn't any then she needs to make it herself. Anger is ok up to a point. Just don't get obsessed with it. I think so too. She wants her life to be like those stupid teen movies and tv shows she watches.. Username37: Your ex-gf is kinda similiar to my ex-bf. Refused to talk it out on fights and quarrels. I think the most important now is to spend time on ourselves. I believe all of us have been in a relationship for a certain time frame till we forget to spare a thought for ourselves. I've been working on myself. Working out, focusing on school. Just that she always pops up and I cannot avoid or stop thinking about it.
lee123 Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Shes not worth being angry over mate, just try and forget about it. It's her loss, you deserve someone better. Best thing to do is go out with your mates, find a new hobby, meet new people. When my ex left me with "lets just be friends". I went to gym more, i feel better about my self, i'v set up a band, which i'm getting a record label for. Look who has the last laugh now. Thanks to other people on this site, opened my eyes. Life goes on, try make the most of it.
collegeguy_24 Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 I know your pain man, and I'm here for you just like you've been there for me.
OpMojo Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Shes not worth being angry over mate, just try and forget about it. It's her loss, you deserve someone better. Best thing to do is go out with your mates, find a new hobby, meet new people. When my ex left me with "lets just be friends". I went to gym more, i feel better about my self, i'v set up a band, which i'm getting a record label for. Look who has the last laugh now. Thanks to other people on this site, opened my eyes. Life goes on, try make the most of it. /|\ THIS. @Username37, you dodged a bullet mate If she was ever to come back to you, it's because you're her backup plan since the others didn't work out. You've been given a second chance here Bud, don't waste it by staying angry at someone who doesn't deserve what you've got. Go and live life, safe in the knowledge that you could have stuck with this chick and been miserable for the rest of your life. Wise men learn through the mistakes of others, Smart men learn through their own mistakes, and monkeys learn through repetition.
Author Username37 Posted November 25, 2010 Author Posted November 25, 2010 I know your pain man, and I'm here for you just like you've been there for me. Thanks college, I appreciate it bud /|\ Wise men learn through the mistakes of others, Smart men learn through their own mistakes, and monkeys learn through repetition. I really dig this quote man. And you're right, she was a pain in the ass most of the time. But I really did care for her and wanted to work everything out. Apparently she didnt have the same goal. Sometimes, I just want to pull her aside and just yell at her for all the **** she's done to me.
rebeccajones Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Basically it ****ing SUX. I feel you. I'm pissed too! Can't wait to get over it all!
Fufu Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 No worries, we will all reach the indifference stage.. the stage where we go. "who gives a hack anymore"
Gt.ooh Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Well...I sure can't wait till I reach full bore indifference. I too get angry just in the last couple days (weather doesn't help...I like snow, but it keeps you locked in)...I don't get fuming mad, but I get these flashes in my head where it's like WTF! Just WTF. I don't understand how someone thinks it's ok to do what she's done to me and keep on going?? Some days I want to punch something others, i just don't give a flying F***. Ahhhhh, feel a little better..
Author Username37 Posted November 25, 2010 Author Posted November 25, 2010 Basically it ****ing SUX. I feel you. I'm pissed too! Can't wait to get over it all! That will be one glorious day No worries, we will all reach the indifference stage.. the stage where we go. "who gives a hack anymore" I call it the "**** it" stage lol Only time will tell I guess
Gt.ooh Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 If it were nicer weather....I'd take my 500hp muscle car out, rev the engine, let the clutch out and lay some F***n' rubber...always puts a smile on my face
Author Username37 Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 If it were nicer weather....I'd take my 500hp muscle car out, rev the engine, let the clutch out and lay some F***n' rubber...always puts a smile on my face Damn, if I had a muscle car, I would totally do that. Dang camry haha
Gt.ooh Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Damn, if I had a muscle car, I would totally do that. Dang camry haha Yea...just doesn't cut it does it lol. That's my car in the pic. It's not a big pic, but u get the idea.
Author Username37 Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 Yea...just doesn't cut it does it lol. That's my car in the pic. It's not a big pic, but u get the idea. Not at all haha Damn, nice ride man. And I hope you all had a great thanksgiving
Gt.ooh Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 Not at all haha Damn, nice ride man. And I hope you all had a great thanksgiving Haha, thanks.
cerridwen Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 I much prefer anger to sadness! Anger helps me ignore any contact he tries to make. It also makes me work out harder at the gym Sadness makes me weak then cave when he texts. Hang in there. Hoping indifference is just around the corner!
reknown29 Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 I am just getting out of my anger stage. I feel like until I got angry she just walked all over me and blamed me for everything because I was so passive. I recently talked wo ther over lunch and expressed some of my anger. I could see in her eyes that she gained so much more respect for me. She contacts me now and I dont return the messages most of the time, unless its a basic question. I feel better about myself and I realize that I had a right to get angry, as you do too. We were dumped, lied to, and lead on. Hold your ground and maintain the feeling that you were wronged. But dont waste your energy on staying mad all the time. Its a waste of time and energy. save the energy for finding a new girl.
Author Username37 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 I'm in deep **** right now So this girl I hang out with a lot just admitted to liking me and we were just texting each other and she just admitted it which threw me off guard. I like the girl and everything, but I don't want a relationship right now. Honestly I don't. I don't want her as a booty call or anything, I just don't want a relationship. What should I do? I'm afraid of hurting her and our friendship..
lee123 Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 I'm in deep **** right now So this girl I hang out with a lot just admitted to liking me and we were just texting each other and she just admitted it which threw me off guard. I like the girl and everything, but I don't want a relationship right now. Honestly I don't. I don't want her as a booty call or anything, I just don't want a relationship. What should I do? I'm afraid of hurting her and our friendship.. Tell her you just want to be friends, she will understand if you tell her your reasons. Ethier way your gunna have to tell her how you feel, say you like her too, but your not ready yet, she might wait.
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