GabrielEvon Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 So I guess I'll start at the beginning. I'm in college and I ended up having classes with one of my better friends girlfriend, Sara. Sara and I ended up becoming best friends over the course of the semester and hanging out all the time. I liked Sara from the moment I seen her, except I knew nothing could ever happen due to her relationship with my friend. So the summer came along and next semester rolled around. Turns out Sara's boyfriend had changed and was a dick to her all the time now. So it so happened later that we expressed our feelings to each other one night, so she decided she had enough and broke up with him. Now boyfriend decides that this is mostly my fault, and is pissed at me for the entire thing. Sara and I start hanging out alot more and end up basically dating. But Sara hadn't let go of boyfriend and he won't let her cut him off. So it ends up being this love triangle for 2 months. Sara eventually said she was going to be with neither of us and just wanted to be alone for a while. I respected her wishes and went to being friends with her. While boyfriend still won't let go and just keeps pushing to get her back. Oh did I mention they live in the same house? That's why this whole situation was hard. Anyways fast forward 4 weeks after alot of heartache on my end, and Sara is now not sure what she wants. She is stuck between 4 guys. Boyfriend who she knows she can never marry or have a future with because they argue all the time. Another guy who she has had a crush on for a year now but won't do anything because of boyfriend. And then my friend who is just being there for her but in her state ended up having some kind of feelings form for him, even though he is everything she doesn't want in a guy. My friend also has alot of woman issues already and won't date her ever due to the repercussions. Then there is me, the guy who is her best friend still, and who pushed her away in the last 2 months because I got too emotional. She told me she wants to be friends with me and doesn't want a relationship with anyone right now. She constantly asks me what she should do, and tells me she misses me all the time. She also told me she still likes me which counts for something I guess. I feel that if I just wait things out she will realize what she truly wants. Alot of people tell me she just does it for the attention, but she never acted like this before. She just started this after I opened Pandora's box basically. I really care about this girl, I just don't know how to get her to be fully committed to me in a relationship. Only time will tell I guess.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Girl doesn't know what she wants If she doesn't want you why do you want her?
somedude81 Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Girl doesn't know what she wants If she doesn't want you why do you want her? Like that's ever stopped anybody...
xpaperxcutx Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Like that's ever stopped anybody... So what's your advice?
goingstrong Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 One of 2 things 1. Get the hell out. There are other women. 2. Compete for her and win.
Author GabrielEvon Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 The reason I do want her is because everything just feels right when i'm with her, it clicks. Yes she does like me, she said it last time we talked. She just is confused about everything it seems. I don't know how to compete for her is the problem, what I've been doing is just being there for her and trying to be her friend. Doesn't seem to be working, it's mostly on her it seems.
jimrich Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Then there is me, the guy who is her best friend still, and who pushed her away in the last 2 months because I got too emotional. She told me she wants to be friends with me and doesn't want a relationship with anyone right now. She constantly asks me what she should do, and tells me she misses me all the time. ... Do you know how to handle that kind of 'messing with your head' stuff? She also told me she still likes me which counts for something I guess. I feel that if I just wait things out she will realize what she truly wants. Alot of people tell me she just does it for the attention, ... That sounds right to me, so do you know what to do about it? but she never acted like this before. She just started this after I opened Pandora's box basically. I really care about this girl, I just don't know how to get her to be fully committed to me in a relationship. Only time will tell I guess. .... Tell what? How about getting some relationship books or go on line and learn how to deal with someone like her. You need to get armed with some communication skills and confronting skills to handle her on-off, playing around, using you & other GAMES! It's all about knowing how and it takes some study and practice to deal with game players and con artists. google: relationships and start learning things..........
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