alex_90 Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 When on a first date, I try to keep it casual and light. But this question always seems to crop up " So, is there anything that you would like to ask me?" How do you answer it? Is that a good sign? Is this a question that could make or break a first date?
Surrealist Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 If I was asked that question I would reflect on who or what I have been talking about up to such time. Maybe it is an indication that you talk about yourself far too much and your date is looking to see if you have any interest in her. If you cannot answer that question there is something wrong. Seriously isnt there anything you would like to ask your date to get to know her?
utterer of lies Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 "So, is there anything that you would like to ask me?" How do you answer it? Ask her something you want to know about her. Duh.
welikeincrowds Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 (edited) "Have you heard the Good News?" I dunno man, I agree with surrealist. You're probably talking about yourself too much. I don't blame you, as people love to talk about themselves to a fresh attractive stranger, but you should be using that to your advantage as much as possible. In fact this question should never be asked by a woman, ever. It only ever means that you've been somehow ignorant, no matter the context. Edited November 24, 2010 by welikeincrowds
Corporation Lizzie Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 I'd tend to agree. She's opening a door for you to allow her to talk about herself. Ask some benign questions and let her go. Her responses should give you ammunition for further questions. It's generally referred to as 'conversation'
Andy_K Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 I agree with surrealist. This question is something that most likely means you've been talking exclusively about yourself, or haven't shown any real interest in getting to know her. Now true, she may have been asking lots of questions about you, but you do need to throw a few back and not wait for her to run out.
Star Gazer Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Without engaging in a blanket gender comment, IME I have found that most men do most of the talking on first dates, as a way of kinda selling themselves to the women they're with. Some book I once read said "Men advertise, and women share." I've found that to be generally true. IME, men volunteer things about themselves, whereas women prefer to be asked before they'll share. In short, stop talking about yourself and show some interest in HER.
Surrealist Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Without engaging in a blanket gender comment, IME I have found that most men do most of the talking on first dates, as a way of kinda selling themselves to the women they're with. Some book I once read said "Men advertise, and women share." I've found that to be generally true. IME, men volunteer things about themselves, whereas women prefer to be asked before they'll share. In short, stop talking about yourself and show some interest in HER. Probably because it is the only time men will ever get a word in. Once married its all over. :laugh:
Star Gazer Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Probably because it is the only time men will ever get a word in. Once married its all over. :laugh: I don't disagree! Eventually the conversation events out, IME. But one of the funniest OLD dates I've been on was at a sports bar. The guy chose a booth directly facing 3 big TVs. He said he chose that particular spot in the bar so that if I talked as much as his last date apparently did (who I guess was quite the talker) he could have something to stare at while I jabbered on. Then he proceeded to monopolize the night's conversation.
Star Gazer Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 "How do you like me so far?" GOOD ONE! Ha!
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