Red Shift Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 I have come to the unfortunate conclusion that I am insecure in relationships. In part, I believe this is due to my last ex who lied to me repeatedly and went behind my back talking with another guy who she was apparently interested in. That's behind me now, but I think I have become insecure and un-trusting because of what happened. Even before that, I was somewhat of a jealous type of guy, and it has just been amplified by all of that. It's 4 months later now, and I just began a relationship (about a month ago) with a girl who is absolutely amazing. We really get along great and I have been really happy with her. The only issue is, I can see myself doing these things that show insecurity, and I really feel like I'm being too needy. I am doing my best to tell myself to be confident, but even simple things like seeing her text someone else get to me. Or the all to obvious, asking "everything ok" when clearly there is nothing wrong. Obviously, I haven't told her things like texting bother me because it would just push her away. I can't explain why it happens, and I really want to learn how to deal with it before I push her away by doing something really stupid. I have absolutely no reason to not trust her, so I can't figure out why I am having such a hard time. We hang out all the time, and she initiates hanging out just as much as I do. Clearly there is nothing wrong between us, so how do I get rid of these thoughts going through my head? I appreciate the help everyone...
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