whatev Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 My ex-boyfriend and I decided to break up about 4 weeks ago after a few months of dating. Here is the run down of our relationship. We knew each other a year, and hung out/made out a few times before I heard some rumors about him and I said some nasty things to him and deleted his number off my phone. Fast forward a year or so. We decided to hang out again, the only 'problem' I guess was we started the relationship based on sex. We had sex, he would call, we would hang out, have sex, etc etc. Finally after a week or so of that I asked him if he liked me... he said yes, and asked me to be his girlfriend. Well at first it was great, he took me out places, introduced me to his family and co workers/friends, paid for a trip and took me with him there, and was really sweet. I knew that he just got out of a previous relationship with a girl he claimed to have dated a year (he changed his story on her a few times) and she was 'convienently' his next door neighbor. He reassurred me when I asked him about them that he hated her, though. I have to admit though, I always felt a weird feeling about her and him. He would tell me she would text him and I asked him why he didn't just ignore her, and he told me he stayed friends with ALL his exes. It didn't make much sense to me and pissed me off, but I accepted it because I hate drama and starting fights. He first told me he "thought he was falling in love with me" after about 2 months... in his car... after he had been assaulted by about 6 Mexican gangsters who egged his car and he was drifiting in and out of conscienceness with his blood all over me, and me screaming and slapping him to keep him from falling asleep. Romantic, huh? Well... the sad part is, I knew I cared about him, and I DID take care of him after that incident and was pretty supportive of him when any other reasonably sane woman would have dismissed him as an idiot and left him. I talked to private investigators and put my own life at risk by picking out the criminals. (they knew how I looked like because I had pushed them off of my ex when they were kicking the **** out of him) So basically I put my life in danger for him. After that - Everything went to hell in a hand bag. He would start annoying me. He had problems with anxiety and all this other stuff, and had to take a concotion of pills everyday just to get through the day without having a seizure because of his anxiety. Because of this he would flip out over totally irrational things. He would pick fights with me over the stupidest things and make me feel bad about myself. Finally after about the 3rd month I became depressed. I would just want to sleep all day. I wouldnt answer his calls and wouldnt call him back till much later. I was drained emotionally and physically, and really deep down knew I needed to end it... but I couldn't, because I loved him. Much of my life at that point began to just be all about him. Maybe he sensed this in me, and told me that he needed to work things out with himself and we should go on a break, and that he didn't want anyone else, didn't want to lose me/hurt me, blah blah blah. I was pissed. I tried to reason with him, but I just knew that this was it. I told him if that's what he really wanted then we should just go no contact with each other and I wasn't going to take him back. I guess I'm just confused. I don't know what to feel about him. I have suspicions he is probably seeing someone new, and never really cared or loved me. Maybe I just needed to vent. These days I have felt empty and sad. I know it's for the best, but why do I keep thinking about it then? Thanks for reading... if you got this far.
Nkognito Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Finally after about the 3rd month I became depressed. I would just want to sleep all day. I wouldnt answer his calls and wouldnt call him back till much later. I was drained emotionally and physically, and really deep down knew I needed to end it... but I couldn't, because I loved him. Much of my life at that point began to just be all about him. Maybe he sensed this in me, and told me that he needed to work things out with himself and we should go on a break, and that he didn't want anyone else, didn't want to lose me/hurt me, blah blah blah. This is kind of weird because my previous girlfriend did just what you did. In the 3rd month she became distant and finally called it off. She was exhausted with her mom in the hospital and work piling up. But I have to ask how did you get to the point above? Depressed? How? Now you are confused because he is no longer a challenge because he came out about how he feels? I think this is where your answer lies, I dont know if anyone will be able to provide one for you. You need to know what you want and just blindly go for it. My last girlfriend, while she was a toll on my heart, she was well worth the risk I took, and for that I thank her.
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