Brandi 2 Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Women, if your guy said a white lie, would you break up with him or not talk to him again? Let's say, he lied about his occupation. His reasoning was for the woman to like him for him, not for what he earns. No, but my radar would be up, that is for sure.
Author jimbo Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 Dude, Im in the same boat as you..there are MANY Lawyer and Dr gals on plenty of fish...I have personally spoken to many of them. Enter your zip / postal code in the search and you'll see them. Dont degrade your career to meet issue riddled single mothers....hayzuz!! Get things on track at least. Tried both POF and OKCupid. The women do not reply.
Green Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Don't lie about what you do to seem poorer or some sht. You want a girl to LOVE you for who you are right? THEN BE WHO YOU ARE. SUPERMAN didn't fully get on with Lois until he revealed his secret and lets face it if clark and superman had been two diferent people Superman would have won... and although Clark is real... Kalel(Superman) is who he really is. Its really easy to spot goldiggers because they will put you off. You meet the right women you won't be worried about this. Plus women don't understand jobs... you could tell a woman you are a doctor at a pain clinic or a plastic surgent and they wouldn't know the difference. I have a friend who is a Banker an only makes 50k a year or something... women look at the clothes you wear and the things you have (car, place you live ect.) look just be you. The best way to snif out a gold digger is to be your rich old self and see how they act anyways. YOu seem to have a problem with getting dates in the real world and that is ur real problem
CLS63AMG Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Tried both POF and OKCupid. The women do not reply. You cant be nice..talk to them like you are their snotty brother..they will reply without even reading your profile..you'll actually talk a few days before they do (they get 50 messages a day). Stand out.
Author jimbo Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 Such as? Any tips would be great.
CLS63AMG Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Snotty brother online + calm, cool, confident guy on the phone + epic date guy in person is online dating success.
CLS63AMG Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Such as? Any tips would be great. Tips.. Lawyer girl.. "So how do you feel about ruining peoples lives for a living..doesnt your conscience eat away at you for putting all those innocent people in jail? ..That is..of you are good! LOL" -She's replying no matter who you are- Thats your IN
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Hmm, tough one. She was my first real relationship. I've dated many others, but they've not turned into a relationship. Most just failed after a few dates. So, it probably wasn't a good jumping off point. I am a late bloomer in the dating world. Having little to no success with Which is why you should not get so wrapped up with this nutter! She is your first relationship... it's a learning experience... don't let it be more than that. Also... it should have been an ENORMOUS red flag that she is currently Bilking Husband #2 to pay for the child of Husband #1. In my opinion that is the absolute hallmark of a trashy woman. This is also why you don't legally adopt another mans kid. You might love the child... but that doesn't mean the mother will stick around cause your just a monthly check at that point.
Author jimbo Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 Which is why you should not get so wrapped up with this nutter! She is your first relationship... it's a learning experience... don't let it be more than that. Also... it should have been an ENORMOUS red flag that she is currently Bilking Husband #2 to pay for the child of Husband #1. In my opinion that is the absolute hallmark of a trashy woman. This is also why you don't legally adopt another mans kid. You might love the child... but that doesn't mean the mother will stick around cause your just a monthly check at that point. No doubt. When she told me about this, I could not understand it. She said it was the second ex's idea to adopt the child. The first husband she has an order of protection against and lives in FL. He's not seen or paid a cent for child support ever. Not sure how he got around it, but he beat her pretty bad. Broken bones, etc. When I started to hear this, I saw the red flags, but insisted to myself she's a good person. But, when the crap hit the fan, she turned from Dr. Jekyll to Ms. Hyde. Very cold, sad, down right mean to me. Always angry and often said if I didn't like what she was doing, I could leave. This was the complete opposite of what I known from her. So, contrary to what some of the women here believe, I was not Mr. Bad Boyfriend. Yes, I understand, since it was my first real relationship, and her up-tenth, I am taking it much harder than she is. These are the days when I wish I had more experience in relationships...
RecordProducer Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 Women, if your guy said a white lie, would you break up with him or not talk to him again? Let's say, he lied about his occupation. His reasoning was for the woman to like him for him, not for what he earns.It's OK to not disclose information that will give her more thna a hint about your income (e.g. I am the general manager of the sales department at Microsoft), but it's OK to just say you work at Microsoft or even say you're in computer sales, but not mention Microsoft. Capish? If you have your own business, you can say you have a business but don't reveal much. Don't tell you're wealthy. Trust me some women will want you just for your money (unless that's what you want). But also don't actively poretend that you're an average guy. For example, I am attracted to successful men, and while I wouldn't never date someone for his money, I would be turned off if my date was making much less than I expect to earn when I'm his age (in my professional branch).
that girl Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 Jimbo- The woman you were dating seems like she had serious issues. But it is not okay to lie about your job. That just sets you up as a liar and any decent woman is going to mistrust you after she finds out the truth, if not dump you. It is one thing to say "Finance, it is pretty boring" when asked about your job. It is quite another thing to say you are a regulator when you are in fact an investment banker. And what would you do if you ended up on a date with someone who is either a regulator or knows one? It isn't that far fetched- I know someone who worked as a regulator.
Author jimbo Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 Jimbo- The woman you were dating seems like she had serious issues. But it is not okay to lie about your job. That just sets you up as a liar and any decent woman is going to mistrust you after she finds out the truth, if not dump you. It is one thing to say "Finance, it is pretty boring" when asked about your job. It is quite another thing to say you are a regulator when you are in fact an investment banker. And what would you do if you ended up on a date with someone who is either a regulator or knows one? It isn't that far fetched- I know someone who worked as a regulator. In hindsight, it was probably not my best decision to say regulator, but I did not expect someone to verify where I worked. I never heard of that before. I had dated women who knew I was an investment banker, and I was once bitten twice shy. So, I came up with that. Yea, there is always the option to date women in my bracket, but they are too much trouble. They have little to no heart and what to be wined and dined in the finest things. I do not do that. Once in a while, yea, sure, but not daily or weekly. So, dating a female investment banker, one is very hard to find, to is very hard to keep satisfied, as they do not settle. Why should they, they have the world by the balls. However, since our relationship lasted that long, and she's known me for about a year before that, I was quite shocked that one, she would not let me explain and two would not accept my offer of just friends. I do not believe, my white lie was really that bad when put into perspective of money problems that she had as well as many people in the area are facing. I was just protecting myself. It was not an ego boost, it was actually the opposite. I was downplaying everything I do. Through the turmoil of her life, I stayed, not jetted. It was not until she started started to be bitter, cold and want to downgrade our relationship to just casual (I.E. sex). Trust me when I say, it was not worth just sex. Granted, not her fault due to the battery and abuse by her husband, but sex was a challenge in order for her to be satisfied. When things were great, her organisms were intense and her whole body shaked. During the end, she seemed to loose the interest in sex. She would just lay there and say let's just satisfy you. I felt used and dirty. Of course, her intimate encounters after I left did not help and effectively killed any chance of anything, down the line too. As, I can deal with a whore. And I feel dirty even admitting I was with her. Is that what relationships come down to now, just sex? If it is, maybe, I just just bow out, as I want more than just sex. It is not hard for me to get sex. However, it is hard to find a good woman who wants a relationship. At the beginning through the middle I thought I had that. At the end, I saw it dying. I knew it was coming to an end even before it did. Unbenounced to her, I started bringing my things back to my apt. from her place cause I knew, sadly, it was just weeks away from ending. And please people, don't just say I got and left cause it got too hot and heavy. I said three times, on three different occasions. What's wrong? Talk to me? Do you want me in your life? I hung on for dear god until there was nothing left. First she says, just life, not you. Then, just a lot of things coming at once. Then, I do not know what I want. Each time, twice, she said a day later I want to work on it, but if you want to leave, then I understand too. Each time, I said and tried to work on it. Really, I do not know what happened. And sorry, this cannot be all just because I told her I worked at one place where I worked at another. That's just crazy. I agree, it was not the wisest move of my life, but it's not something that would kill a relationship if the two people really cared about each other.
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