Heartbroken-idiot Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Right it's been a very long time since I last spoke on Here and things changed a lot for me. Ive been with my SO for 10 months now but we have been on and off for 3 years. She had been living with me and we were getting along great but i knew she had to move away to do a course about 3 hours drive away. Before she left she told me how much she loved me and wanted me wanted us to move into our own place together when she had finished. Well I took her there and dropped her off and she cried when i left and was so really loving in her messages ect for the first few days. It's been just over a week now and I feel like complete sht missing madly and everything that comes with it but she has changed, Shes living with all these new people while doing the course and has taken a shine to a man there, she tells me how nice he is and how much like her he is and i don't know what to do. I'm really worried, she doesn't really say miss you unless i say it first, I just don't know what to do and need some advice.
madjac74 Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 3 hours away?! Go see her and talk to her about it!
Author Heartbroken-idiot Posted November 23, 2010 Author Posted November 23, 2010 Id really love to but she has really long days ATM and If I asked I believe I would get a no as answer, I've done something like it before last year and she wasn't happy about it then.
Gwendolyn Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Let her not be happy about it. ^.^ I think this is really something that you need to talk to her in person about. Considering the short time that she's been away and the quick affection she has taken to this new guy, I think it would be in *your* best interest to go see her, face to face. You could always purchase her a nice gift and just make the excuse that you missed her. Either way, she should be *happy* that you're there with her, even if she only gets to spend one or two evenings with you. If she isn't, then you might start thinking about why that is.
Author Heartbroken-idiot Posted November 23, 2010 Author Posted November 23, 2010 You really might be right, I just worry if I go down there I might mess it up, and completely ruin it with us and I don't want to do That, it's so hard because I've been through pain like this with her before, never involving someone else and I couldn't manage the pain then so I don't know how I'll manage it now.
Gwendolyn Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Honestly, if you think you run the risk of ruining your relationship by spending time with her... it's already ruined.
creighton0123 Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 "Honestly, if you think you run the risk of ruining your relationship by spending time with her... it's already ruined. :confused:" To the OP, it sucks, but this is right.
Author Heartbroken-idiot Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 ok after speaking to her today finally she says that she doesnt know if she loves me like a boyfriend or more like a friend, she says she hasnt really missed me but the thing is its been a week and shes been doing 14 hour days of work so has she had the time too? i dont know anymore, before she left like i said she told me and her friends she wanted to move in with me and get a place when she had finished so why now after just over a week is she being like this? what can i do? i was thinking of just sitting back a bit now and seeing how it goes, text her to make sure shes ok but not being full on with my feelings ect...? i just dont know because i love her so much and really believed she did me from what she had said before
madjac74 Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 ok after speaking to her today finally she says that she doesnt know if she loves me like a boyfriend or more like a friend, she says she hasnt really missed me but the thing is its been a week and shes been doing 14 hour days of work so has she had the time too? i dont know anymore, before she left like i said she told me and her friends she wanted to move in with me and get a place when she had finished so why now after just over a week is she being like this? what can i do? i was thinking of just sitting back a bit now and seeing how it goes, text her to make sure shes ok but not being full on with my feelings ect...? i just dont know because i love her so much and really believed she did me from what she had said before Don't even text her. She says she didn't miss you so put her to the test.
Author Heartbroken-idiot Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 i think im gonna have to because i cant cope again, i just cant.. i dunno what to do
folieadeux Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 The ball's in her court...she obviously has some issues she needs to reconcile and it really won't be worth contacting her until then. Seems like you'll just get the same answers. I agree with the poster who said that it may already be over if you fear that spending time with her will send her over the edge. This makes zero sense to me. All of us on here would give anything for our SO's to be three hours away.
Author Heartbroken-idiot Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 see im from england and 3 hours away is about as far as it gets... but for us that 3 hours is 3 years as we have never been apart. she told me she would speak to me tomorrow and she will but that doesnt solve the problem. see the thing is she doesnt not wanna see me she just hasnt got the time because shes doing a very intensive course and tbh shes prob also putting off seeing me. that makes me feel like complete ****e and i cant do muc habout that. right now its 3am and im pretty drunk because i cant deal with this all over again yet i seems i love her to the point that whateveer happens i want her. i think im writing on here because i know someone will read it, the advice is good but what i am really to do? leave her alone completely? or try my hardest to i dunnno win her back?
misippe Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 3 hours away?! Go see her and talk to her about it! yeah! 3 hours haha. That's nothing
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