Capris Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Hi again, I hope everyones doing well, im ok i guess. The question i have here is about jealousy in friendships but i thought i had to put it here cause it does have to do a bit with me, and my situation. So my MM has this "friend" i never liked, and MM isnt very fond of either. More like a "have to be friends for the buisness" plus, we have tons of friends in common, This guys is creepy, a drunk and has tried to hit on me while on alcohol. I think he is jealous of MM, well cause he doesnt have alot of stuff going for him (looks, character, drinking, divorce etc etc) and this is not only my opinion. MM of course is known of how much women like him etc etc. So point is, i think he makes me feel jealous of MM on purpose. He always critisizes MM negative behind his back and its moslty about how MM hits on women every night. Note that MM is a flitirious guy but thats different than "hitting on" and im not the only one who claims this, our common friends who dont know about us do too. This specific friend knew about us but in time we convienced him we're not together, at least MM thinks he did. Anyways, he always tells me about what MM does , and makes it sound like MM is a guy that f*** anything thats moving. Everytime we are out all together, and MM talks to a girl (JUST TALK) Friend stares at me to see my reaction. He makes me feel SO uncomfortable. We have had fights about this with MM, he asked me why do i believe him and pointed out how many other stupid and jealous stuff like that Friend does that has nothing to do with me. Which is true. And above all he said, i get your jealousy, but jesus, dont i have a say in this?you keep believing any sh** this guy tells you and treat me as i am a man whore..I may not be the greatest person, but i do have dignity and trust me, dignity is not f****g any girl thats near me etc etc I did believe him , and decided never to get caught in his Friend's game again. If anyone else says something similiar, i do have doubts but guess what..that has never happened. Of course im here posting cause Friend did it again and compared me to this girl he thinks MM is hitting on, even when last time he said something about that girl, MM found out and yelled at him for saying things like that to EVERYONE we know behind his back. Im sure you can understanding exactly what is going on in my head, thats why i decided to post it here.So question is, can a guy be so jealous of his friend to ruin anything good that comes to him? or am i sooooo ignorant that MM is monster? cause if i believe everything Friend says than MM is a total a**, which is oposite of what i believe and most of all what every one else believes too. Am i just giving too much attention to an insecure guy that thinks he is superior? (yes he is a know-it-all guy) and again this is not only my opinion. I hope i made sence, but thatnks for reading!!
spice4life Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 A couple things come to mind after reading your post. First, this friend sounds like they are trying to push your buttons for whatever reason. Go with yout gut instead of puuting stock into what someone else says, especially if they are not a close trusted friend. Secondly, I live by the rule that I never listen to whatt other people say about others. I use my own judgement because I have faith enough in myself to know if someone is up to no good or not. Look at it this way, the world would be in a lot trouble if we went by what others say without getting the facts on our own. I would ignore thiis person if I were you because they aren't living your life so how could they possibly know. In other words, don't get sucked into their toxic agenda.
Fieldsofgold Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Although I think there is some little niggling doubt in your mind, or it would not be an issue. Don't ignore your niggling doubts. Sometimes that is something in your spirit trying to give you an important message.
Spark1111 Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Although I think there is some little niggling doubt in your mind, or it would not be an issue. Don't ignore your niggling doubts. Sometimes that is something in your spirit trying to give you an important message. great advice FOG! Never use your logical mind to convince you your gut is wrong. It is there trying to protect you! So, if you have some concerns, you can ignore the friend and his antics, but don't shelve your concerns.
Author Capris Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 Hi, have to post fast: I agree with the gut feeling thing. Last year i was tortured by doubting my gut and logic mind. After a little research and a few trips to my psychiatrist i was diagnosed with OCD the "doubting desease".... How f**ed up am i? PLus im such a fool im off my meds again...
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