EyeAlone Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 I know that this varies from person to person and relationship to relationship, but I just wanted to see what the general opinion is here. For the first month or so in a relationship, how often do you use the phone to communicate with the person you're dating? When I'm talking about using the phone, I mean either actual talking and/or sending text messages. The reason why I'm asking is because I've been dating a guy for a month and things have been working out okay at least in my opinion. We're both busy people so we usually talk on the phone a couple of times a week, maybe about 20 min or so to see how the other person is doing and to set up the next date. We never text message. When we're together on dates, we really hit it off. Like I said, I didn't initially think there is anything wrong with our dynamics. But one of my best friends has also been dating a guy for a month and they constantly text message each other throughout the whole day and call each other at night. I have no idea what they're talking about all day and how they even have enough stuff to talk about. To make things worse, my friend told me that if this guy was truly interested in me, he'd make time to call me every night on the phone. This sounds like BS to me for the first couple of months of dating, but then again, she's been in more relationships than I have so maybe I'm wrong. Opinions?
youngskywalker Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 (edited) I prefer not to talk on the phone every night during the first month. I don't want to smother or be smothered. Your situation sounds pretty normal to me because that's the speed at which I operate. Now as far as the texting goes, I would think you would be texting everyday. Maybe not chatting away all day long but a little flirty message here and there is nice. Have you initiated any texts to him? I'd go ahead and send out some texts and see if he's interested in rolling with it. Keep in light, clever and flirty. Edited November 23, 2010 by youngskywalker
Confusedalways Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 I'm currently in the first month of my relationship, we are in constant text contact throughout every day. The most we talk on the phone is to establish plans. I know this is a lot to some people, so I'd say as long as your pacing is comfortable, it is YOUR relationship. Don't let your friends or other people tell you what you're doing is wrong- it isn't! If you guys click well in person and chat on the phone, I'd say you were doing just fine
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 For me, it varies from relationship to relationship. In my last relationship, we were texting every day and calling almost every day. At the moment I'm dating someone and we call about once or twice a week, and hardly any texting. I admit that it took some time to get used to the reduced level of communication, especially seeing as the person I'm dating at the moment lives almost three hours away. However, I'm quite confident and secure in the state of our relationship and, when we do talk or when were are together, we get on like a house on fire.
EasyHeart Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 We're both busy people so we usually talk on the phone a couple of times a week, maybe about 20 min or so to see how the other person is doing and to set up the next date. We never text message. When we're together on dates, we really hit it off.This is exactly how my good relationships start. But one of my best friends has also been dating a guy for a month and they constantly text message each other throughout the whole day and call each other at night. I have no idea what they're talking about all day and how they even have enough stuff to talk about. To make things worse, my friend told me that if this guy was truly interested in me, he'd make time to call me every night on the phone. This is exactly how my horrible, stressful, drama-filled relationships start. Get it?
GooseChaser Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 I am in a relationship of five weeks. Typically, we exchange a couple texts seeing how the other person's week is going and setting up a date, and then we see each other at the time and place that we agreed on. That is where we have most of our interaction. We don't talk on the phone much at all. Sometimes I will call if he doesn't answer a text or if I just want to talk, and that usually lasts 5 to 10 minutes, I think.
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