Nkognito Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Well had a long talk and she said she just wanted to be friends so she can focus on her studies, we are back together but something doesn't feel the same, we hardly talk and text through the week anymore. Do see each though when we can. Being friends is a bad idea. Being put in the "friendzone" is not somewhere you want to be. Once she starts seeing other people, you will be devistated. One thing you will learn is that you cannot be friends with an ex after a fresh breakup. Maybe a year or so down the road when you have escaped the feelings you have for her now but if you check the other posts on here you will soon find out that even months after a breakup, someone runs into their ex and all those feelings come rushing back. You need to just break all contact with her. Focus on yourself, the things you want in life, motorcycle, car, boy toys and such.
Author lee123 Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 Thanks for that it means a lot. I don't know if it was the way I said or I didn't understand what you said but, I meant she dumped me to focus on her studdies, that's why she Wanted to just be friends. We are going out again now, but something doesn't feel right. I love her loads still, don't really know what feels different :/
Nkognito Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Thanks for that it means a lot. I don't know if it was the way I said or I didn't understand what you said but, I meant she dumped me to focus on her studdies, that's why she Wanted to just be friends. We are going out again now, but something doesn't feel right. I love her loads still, don't really know what feels different :/ It's your trust, your sub-concious holding back because you instinctively know she will do it again. There are two sayings you need to remember, "The candle that burns the brightest, burns half as long." "The person who cares the least determines whether the relationship continues or ends"
Author lee123 Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 (edited) Think you guys are right, i don't feel the same. I feel insecure :/ maybe i should just move on. Will break my heart, but hopefully it will be fixed in time. :/ i hate life sometimes. I'v never been insecure before. Any tips for not replying to calls and texts ? Edited November 24, 2010 by lee123
SimonSerenade Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 I'd call it a day mate unless you can forgive and know she won't do it again when thing's get tough, My ex did a good few times for me early in to the stage now were we have a kid etc etc, It's her bed... She's made it, Let her sleep in it.
Author lee123 Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 Just told her, got abuse, and stuff like that ahhh well :/. Thanks alot to everyone who replyed, much appericated, don't know where i'd end up without you, many thanks
Jeff M Stevens Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 ....but Lee, I told you so. I don't say that out of ego or out of trying to belittle you. In fact, I am on your side. I want you to find the kind of girl that you absolutely deserve because you seem like a good good guy. I just want you to see that when you spend your time and energy on a girl that is going nowhere, you end up maybe missing the girl that would be good for you. I hope you learn from this experience and cut them off when you get bad signs. I don't mean you should be hard edged and analyze every single word they say but if they pull a big one like breaking up with you, they are out for life. What happened with that girl was by not groveling and initially refusing to take her back, you tweaked her ego. She was never interested in having you back for love. She just wanted you back to prove to herself and probably her girlfriends that she could get you back. I mean...think about this. Does a girl in love with you break up with you, beg that she wants you back and then when you finally take her back, pulls the friend card on you? I'm telling you man, when you took her back, she was laughing behind your back with her girlfriends saying "I got that Lee guy to take me back. Can you believe it. I told him that we'll just be friends so that he'll take me out. Hell....if he's willing it will be a free meal and maybe I can find another guy" Again...not trying to hurt you man...but that is EXACTLY what she did. You deserve much better because you do seem like a good guy. Please remember this: "When They Like You, They Help You" You don't get any of the back and forth BS when you have a good woman that is truly interested in you and that is the kind of woman you deserve! Good luck
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