The Absolute, Undeniable Truth About Affiairs. Been There, you better effing pay att

[Jaspe_Loco]

Been there. Had a wife that treated me like ****. She cheated on me so many times it's pathetic. After more than a decade of marriage, I met the only woman that I even considered cheating with, despite my wife's actions. I tried to divorce without being involved with another woman, but was too much of a pu$$y to be the bad guy so I tried to reconcile.

 

I love this other woman. I NEVER believed in soul-mates, but she was definitely the closest I've ever come. I tried sooo damn hard to stick out my marriage, but there was sooo much history between me and this other woman... it was hard to ignore.

 

Her ex was a piece of ****. A drunk, philandering piece of ****. But at the end of a day, it doesn't matter. Especially if you live in a small, hick town. You cannot win. The authorities will **** you over to protect their own. Your kids will suffer. Rednecks will swear that you deserve to have your a$$es kicked.

 

Just don't do it. Do your best to insulate your kids... make sure their life is special and PRAY that they are the exception to reality.

 

 

 

At least you will be able to sleep at night knowing that you put your children first.

 

I'm begging you... listen to what I'm telling you. If only I had listened to my own advice, my baby girl would be with me every night.

 

Just ****in' listen.

Edited November 23, 2010 by Jaspe_Loco

[pureinheart]

Been there. Had a wife that treated me like ****. She cheated on me so many times it's pathetic. After more than a decade of marriage, I met the only woman that I even considered cheating with, despite my wife's actions. I tried to divorce without being involved with another woman, but was too much of a pu$$y to be the bad guy so I tried to reconcile.

 

I love this other woman. I NEVER believed in soul-mates, but she was definitely the closest I've ever come. I tried sooo damn hard to stick out my marriage, but there was sooo much history between me and this other woman... it was hard to ignore.

 

Her ex was a piece of ****. A drunk, philandering piece of ****. But at the end of a day, it doesn't matter. Especially if you live in a small, hick town. You cannot win. The authorities will **** you over to protect their own. Your kids will suffer. Rednecks will swear that you deserve to have your a$$es kicked.

 

Just don't do it. Do your best to insulate your kids... make sure their life is special and PRAY that they are the exception to reality.

 

 

 

At least you will be able to sleep at night knowing that you put your children first.

 

I'm begging you... listen to what I'm telling you. If only I had listened to my own advice, my baby girl would be with me every night.

 

Just ****in' listen.

 

No offence, but I hate those freaking hick towns, I call them backwards. I am really sorry about your sitch...dude, you got my thoughts and prayers....

[OWoman]

JL, I'm sorry things turned out so badly for you.

 

I think this is the crux of it:

 

I tried to divorce without being involved with another woman, but was too much of a pu$$y to be the bad guy so I tried to reconcile.

 

Your WW treated you badly. You fell for another, but instead of ending it with your WW, you tried to reconcile - and everything imploded. So, instead of divorcing with the moral high ground, you landed up becoming the "bad guy". Same outcome, only now you're the "bad guy" you didn't want to become.

 

I think it's pretty common for MMs to go through that kind of process - they don't want to end their Ms because of the kids, because of their responsibilities, because somehow pulling the plug on the M would mark them out as the failure, or the bad guy... and then, the start down a path that achieves exactly the outcome they were afraid of.

 

It sucks, but you also need to stop beating up on yourself. It happened because you were vulnerable to it at the time. Just as all those other MMs who fall into exactly this situation are / have been. It happens. You were one of the unlucky ones who didn't have the resources to withstand the pressure at the time you most needed it, and so you gave in. Learn the lesson, be kind to yourself and help yourself to get the resources to withstand such pressures next time you need to.

 

Hang in there!

[phillyfan]

Dude u need to move to a diffrent town.

[East7]

 

I think it's pretty common for MMs to go through that kind of process - they don't want to end their Ms because of the kids, because of their responsibilities, because somehow pulling the plug on the M would mark them out as the failure, or the bad guy... and then, the start down a path that achieves exactly the outcome they were afraid of.

 

That's so true, MM and MW both ! Ironic, isn't it?

[Jaspe_Loco]

I've had some good news.... The DA in another non-redneck town is going after the ex hard. He is facing felony charges. However, his redneck friend in my hood is throwing beer bottles in my yard daily. Stupid, childish behavior, but he is pissing me off. Baby steps I guess.