thekid55 Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 (edited) My girlfriend and I broke up seven weeks ago after a 2.5 year relationship. We both agreed that we needed to take the time to work on ourselves. We are both seniors in college. We've talked about marriage and have never had issues with lying, cheating, etc. After awhile, I decided that I wanted to see her again and try to work on things. She has resisted my attempts. In turn, I've had a few episodes where I poured my heart out to her and basically begged for her to come back. Goes without saying that she didn't take this well. She would say, 'This is why we can't talk' I would tell her that I loved her and she would say 'I'll always love you'. I've been in and out of NC during this period. We currently have been in NC for 9 days now, the longest we've ever gone. She has reached out to me roughly a half dozen times since the breakup. A few times she was upset about the breakup. The other times she sent me something trivial because we had not spoken in awhile. She told me a week ago that she is 'starting to feel like a normal person again', which I am happy about. Goes to show that this has been tough on her. I do know that she has a new group friends, but she has not rebounded or talked to any other guys. I'm firmly confident about this. In past relationships, I know that she has rebounded farily quickly, but that isn't the case this time. So my question is, Do you think it matters that she has not rebounded? A sign of her wanting to come back for the future? Obviously I want her back, but she has not budged. She is clearly doing friend-time right now. It is our last year in college and obviously things are changing. It can be a little scary about graduating, but I know that I have what she wants. What do you think? Edited November 23, 2010 by thekid55
bl22 Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 sounds like my situation. She wanted a break up, i begged her back but turns out there was another guy she liked. Was with her 2 years, when id contact her she'd say 'Ill always love you but I cant be with you right now' Sounds to me like shes met someone new, or the new friends have made her doubt your relationship and you
Graceful Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 (edited) It sounds like she just needs to be on her own with her friends. If she had a guy waiting for her, you'd know it by now. But I think the fact she is not ready to date is to her credit. Sometimes, people just need their space, especially when you are seniors in college and about to enter the real world soon. She might really want to turn over all of her options and not be tied down by a relationship, even though she really cares for you. She just needs her space. Keep contact to a MINIMUM. Don't be mean, but don't indulge her. She broke up with you. Be nice, but be firm if she contacts you. She should not feel that you are there for her at her whim. Don't grovel. Show her you are surviving, be cheerful, and don't wear your heart on your sleeve. Women like a guy who can handle his emotions, and she might be surprised you can manage without her. And you can. Forget about the rebounding. It is not a predictor of her coming back or keeping with the break up. Just go forward. Edited November 24, 2010 by Graceful
iamawesome Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 Let her heal and the dust settle. Nothing good ever gets away. In the meanwhile, start considering your own options.
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