Fermentum Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Last night was the first night that I felt liked I had accepted the fact that it was over and it was time to move on. The whole long story is in a previous post of mine, but last night I got confirmation that my Ex of two months (dated 4 years) with whom I've been NC for about 18 days now is seeing someone new. (and a lesbian, no less. THAT was a surprise) When I first got the news (through a FB creep, sadly) it hit me hard. But now...I feel better about it because it at least means she's happy. I've kept a journal over the last two months and last night filled out the last page. I signed it, saying goodbye to her, and put it away on my bookshelf. That seemed to cement it. We broke up due to distance and the time not being right and to keep the possibility for reunification open, but I'm also recognizing that while I have a lot of growing up to do, she has even more than me. I'm seeing new people and feeling better. I still have imaginary conversations with her, but they are getting fewer and fewer. What about the rest of LS? How did it take to feel like you have accepted the fact that it was over? Any advice to keep moving forward?
Eternity001 Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 I haven't reached acceptance yet and it's been a year. Thought I had between roughly months 4-8 but now I'm right back where I started. I'm happy for you, hopefully I get there one day.
bestrong Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 I guess I have reached acceptance, but I am still grieving on the end of our friendship. I know it's for our best not to be together, but I just miss having her in my life. The same as you, I am glad that she has found the one she likes, I am happy for her but I am also sad because the person isn't me. I have accepted that we aren't going to be together, but imaginary conversations still gets in the way. You have gone through some tough times, keep your faith!!
sedgwick Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 It's been 3.5 years for me. I accept that he's never coming back, but I miss him every single day. I've filled so many journals I had to stop keeping one because they were just all about him. Seriously, I've got at least six full journals at this point just trying to figure out that relationship. Sigh.
Heatemyheart89 Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 (edited) well i accepted it when I got my new boyfriend. Its about 1.5 years later and only now can I say im over it. Advise: Go/ stay no contact. Dont ask her about her life/dont say happy birthday etc. Get on with your own life knowing that you're going to be ok. I never thought Id be ok but Im doing pretty well now. Edited November 23, 2010 by Heatemyheart89
HeavenOrHell Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 6 or 7 months post break up, after 18 years together.
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