youngskywalker Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 So girls. Have you ever had feelings for a guy in a newer relationship but decided in your mind to bail despite your feelings? I recently was rejected by a girl that seemed COMPLETELY into me. I never found out why it ended and probably never will. But, if I think about it maybe it wasn't me she was rejecting but the problem was on her end. Could be any number of reasons. Maybe I shouldn't take rejection so personally. Maybe it wasn't my personality traits, sincerity, humor, my looks the things I said or the way I acted that she rejected. Maybe she thought I was a wonderful person but something just didn't click for her. Just wasn't that into me I guess!! Or maybe she has trust issues or fear of being hurt so she pushes people away from her that want to get close. Maybe she wasn't looking for a relationship but instead FWB and when she found out I didn't do that she moved on. I could go on with all the maybes but what I've realized is I don't have to beat myself up over this and it wasn't my fault. Hear that? it's not my fault.
Eeyore79 Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Even if I have feelings for a guy, I will bail if the relationship is going nowhere. I really cared about my last ex, but it was obvious he didn't love me back and wasn't committed to our relationship, so I dumped him. With another ex, I had feelings for him but dumped him because I knew our relationship wasn't viable - it was an LDR and we both had ties that prevented us from relocating. So yes, I think it's possible for someone to dump you because the relationship doesn't work, even if they have feelings for you.
Author youngskywalker Posted November 23, 2010 Author Posted November 23, 2010 Yeah that's kind of what I thought. I know this girl had at least some feelings for me but the relationship went as far as it could. Our differing schedules weren't allowing us to see each other enough. So in light of what you said everything makes a little more sense to me now. I could see where things were headed so I beat her to the punch as far as breaking up. I figured it would make everything easier on her if I didn't put her through the turmoil of having to be the one to pull the trigger. Perhaps we'll stay friends. We did part on good terms and I'd be willing to give it another shot if she ever comes around and wants to try to work something out with our schedules. Not likely, I know.
Confusedalways Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 No- though I have decided no to men who THEY thought I was completely into them. If I like someone enough- I will make time/ effort/ etc. You do have one thing right though- don't take it personally. It could be for a myriad of reasons, which you acknowledge. People are picky.
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