Margot Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 I know that with our broken hearts, feelings of loneliness, and all those feelings that come when someone you dearly love dumped you, you can overanalyze any kind of signals (even smoke signals) that this person gives you. Well I just want to know why my ex-boyfriend (6 years together), who left me, who told me that he changed everything of his life to make me happy, who criticize everything of me when he broke up with me, who lied and manipulated me, who said that he loved more than anything, and when I clearly stated that the best for me is NC (have been in NC for 4 months, even though he still contacts me and I don't respond) sends me an e-mail last week that basically says: "Dear X (the pet name he used to called me), You know that my favorite sport league recently started and that I'm focusing on watching those games. I also made a Fantasy League Team of that sport and my team name is ___________ (something very specific and unique of my profession (librarian) and I'm the only librarian he knows and ever know. He used to tease me, in a good way, of how geeky I was with my profession). I know that it may seem cheesy but I like it. You know that my favorite players are _____ and ___________, and Y (our mutual friend) took them from me in our draft. X, what do you think about what Y did? (he keeps talking about his team and blah, blah, blah) Then he finishes saying that he wants to know something about me, anything about me. And then he says, hope you are doing fine." A week before this message was the date of what is was supposed to be our 6 year anniversary and he sent me, through my brother, my favorite t-shirt of his with perfume (What the F***?) and then he sent me an e-mail saying that he gave me that t-shirt because he knew that it was my favorite and that I had to remember the Friends episode where Ross gives Rachel his favorite t-shirt. (What the F*** , he thinks we're on a TV show or what) Does he wants to trigger my smell sense to contact him? Well, my question is, why he does this things and why he writes to me all this? I have been healing on a slow pace (thanks to the NC), but if he rejected me, didn't want to be with me, said that I needed to move on, why he keeps doing this things and writing me about it?
skydiveaddict Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 He does these things because he feels guilty about smashing your heart to bits. So instead of just leaving you alone to heal, he hopes you will respond to his idiotic cowardly messages with some thing like "I'm fine, having a wonderful day, hope you are too." These messages having nothing to do with you at all, it's all about making himself feel better. Good for you for ignoring them. He's nothing but a sniveling wimp. I wish you well
AlisaMarie Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 I agree! He is toying with you! Sending you a fave shirt of his? Eww! I don't know what he is trying to pull. That's not even cool. I can see if he called you and said he wanted to talk because he has been thinking about things... but WOW! Don't accept gifts and keep up the NC! Well... keep the purfume if you like it but the shirt is trash. I really don't know why people break up, then try to hang on. It's almost like he doesn't want you, but doesn't want to give you the chance to have anyone else.
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