Author northern_sky Posted November 27, 2010 Author Posted November 27, 2010 Yep, he's very arrogant. One of my pitfalls is I find arrogance paired with intelligence in guys attractive, but I think he goes overboard. I mean in his profile he says, "I'm adorable. You'd never guess I was an only child. My friends are all awesome." Also: "I'm good at most things." In one of my groupie moments I said to him, "how are you so smart?" And he gave me a smug, irony free look and said, "just luck I guess." I have this weird thing where I can be totally irritated by a guy but also intrigued by the challenge. Next time I start doing that, I'll do my best to nip it in the bud.
threebyfate Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 There's a touch of arrogance and then, there's this guy. If you put your left hand up to your forehead, holding thumb perpendicular to your vertical index finger, this would best describe this guy!
Author northern_sky Posted November 27, 2010 Author Posted November 27, 2010 There's a touch of arrogance and then, there's this guy. If you put your left hand up to your forehead, holding thumb perpendicular to your vertical index finger, this would best describe this guy! .........I love you, TBF.
Star Gazer Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 I'll admit that a certain type of arrogance can be attractive. There's arrogance that's internal, and arrogance that's thrown at other people in a way to see if they "measure up." I'm noticing this trend lately... It's one thing for him to say "I'm freaking awesome." That confidence is attractive. But it's quite another to say, "I'm freaking awesome, and you have to prove to me that you are to for me to bother with you." I used to chase after the challenge too. What changed for me was when I finally realized, " He doesn't deserve my effort. He doesn't deserve to be conquered by me. He'd bring me down to his level if I did."
threebyfate Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 .........I love you, TBF.((hugs)) Now stop wasting your time on these losers and focus on your learnin'!!
Author northern_sky Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 Looks like he gave me an easy out. He had set a date for us for tomorrow (his idea after he cancelled the last one because he was sick at the time) and has yet to confirm. It's getting a bit ridiculous at this point. I'm going to write him an email that says: "I'm assuming we're not seeing each other tomorrow, because I haven't heard from you. There was something else I was thinking of doing, and I'm going to RSVP for that. Hope you had a great holiday!"
Author northern_sky Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 OK, it's 1 pm here and he hasn't gotten in touch with me to confirm our supposed date today. I finally sent him an email just now: "Haven't heard from you, so I've made other plans." He was the one to cancel our last date the day of because he was sick. I thought he was more responsible/considerate than this. Well, he's made it easy for me. We're through.
Author northern_sky Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 I posted this in the other thread, but figured it was worth pasting here as well: He wrote this back almost immediately: Oh crap, I am so sorry. My friend --- is in town and I've just been totally preoccupied with him. I am awful, there's really no excuse for this. Can I buy you dinner another night this week to make up for it? I don't think there's anything happening in my week besides work, so the schedule is wide open. LAME................
threebyfate Posted November 28, 2010 Posted November 28, 2010 His actions and words are very clear that it's all about him, when and how it's convenient for him. In his mind, he holds all the cards. THAT'S what the proof game does.
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