shocked_confused Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Hey guys, My boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago after moving far away. I'm living in my hometown still but I've always known that I don't want to live here the rest of my life. Initially, I was supposed to move in with him early 2011, but now that those plans are squashed I feel that I need a change for myself. I've looking at jobs in my field on the west coast and am thinking of just moving there for a new beginning/adventure for myself. Throughout the 6 years, everything was all about him and his career and what he wanted (and I went along with it). But now I want to focus on myself and my career. Do you think I'm moving too fast with these plans? Should I wait a few months before I make a big decision like this? I don't want it to seem like I'm running away from my problems, but I've always wanted to start a new life somewhere else...Should I wait, or apply to some jobs that I'm interested in? Also, has anyone else experienced this feeling of just wanting to get out there? And has anyone followed through?
WTRanger Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 First off, is the West Coast where he moved to? If so: You have to ask yourself if you are wanting to move there for yourself or for the slimmest chance of being with him again? Then look at your alternatives. If you move there because you think that'll be your 2nd chance, and that plan crashes into the mountain, are you going to stay out there? Would you be happy out there starting your life from scratch? Would you stalk him? If not: I say go for it. Give yourself a year, then decide to stay or come back home. I speak from experience. I moved 2,300 miles away from everything I've ever known for a job out on the West Coast and I can tell you the experience was the best thing. No one can take that away from you.
Author shocked_confused Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 First off, is the West Coast where he moved to? If so: You have to ask yourself if you are wanting to move there for yourself or for the slimmest chance of being with him again? Then look at your alternatives. If you move there because you think that'll be your 2nd chance, and that plan crashes into the mountain, are you going to stay out there? Would you be happy out there starting your life from scratch? Would you stalk him? If not: I say go for it. Give yourself a year, then decide to stay or come back home. I speak from experience. I moved 2,300 miles away from everything I've ever known for a job out on the West Coast and I can tell you the experience was the best thing. No one can take that away from you. Heyyy thanks for your advice. No he moved down south. So I'd be even further away from him than i am now! I just feel a need to do something more with my life, and leaving my hometown is something I want to do. I feel the need to build my own life, make new friends, and just be free! I was so selfless these past 6 years and now I want to do things for myself. Maybe I'll give it a few more months at least before I make a decision.
WTRanger Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Well, then by all means go for it. It's an amazing experience and you really learn who you are as a person. I would apply for any job openings now, then make your decision after you get an offer or if an offer is on the horizon. You don't want to let any job pass by while you are deciding. You can decide during the job search process and if you fly out there to interview.
Author shocked_confused Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 Thank you! Yea there are several jobs out in Vancouver that are in my field, so i'm definitely going to be applying to those. Thanks again for your advice
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