shocked_confused Posted November 22, 2010 Share Posted November 22, 2010 Hey guys, My boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago after moving far away. I'm living in my hometown still but I've always known that I don't want to live here the rest of my life. Initially, I was supposed to move in with him early 2011, but now that those plans are squashed I feel that I need a change for myself. I've looking at jobs in my field on the west coast and am thinking of just moving there for a new beginning/adventure for myself. Throughout the 6 years, everything was all about him and his career and what he wanted (and I went along with it). But now I want to focus on myself and my career. Do you think I'm moving too fast with these plans? Should I wait a few months before I make a big decision like this? I don't want it to seem like I'm running away from my problems, but I've always wanted to start a new life somewhere else...Should I wait, or apply to some jobs that I'm interested in? Also, has anyone else experienced this feeling of just wanting to get out there? And has anyone followed through? Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 Many years ago, after a big life change similar to yours, I joined the army the next day (well the nat'l guard). That was a six year commitment. You can move anywhere you wish. If you don't like it, you can always come back home or try somewhere else. You only get one shot in this life, so if you feel like doing something do it. You can get over disappointments and mistakes, but regrets will remain forever. Link to post Share on other sites
Brandi 2 Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 It sounds to me like you want a change, what really can it hurt anyway? So you don't like where you go (should you go), you can always change it. Pack light till you know for sure. Can you take a short vacation to see if you get homesick? Link to post Share on other sites
Jeff M Stevens Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 Only you can answer this. Are you getting away because you're trying to run away from the hurt or has this experience given you the freedom to pursue your dreams? The former is obviously a negative and won't work ultimately because you're going to take yourself with you no matter where you go. The latter is obviously a positive that could be a chance to enrich your life. You suffered a great loss. It's not a death in the physical sense but a death of your former life. I would get a book or two on grief and try to sort through your feelings on this. One thing grief books will universally tell you is that you have to sort through YOUR feelings in YOUR time. Do not let anyone give you some platitude like: *Time heals all wounds *You'll find someone else *Be strong Etc...etc. You have a grief process to go through no matter where you live and the sooner you face it, the sooner you will heal. Could a move to the West Coast be right? Sure, if it is for the right reasons. I wish you well Link to post Share on other sites
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