He has NO idea how Facebook posts "mysteriously" disappeared???

[librooks]

Met this guy 2 months ago. We hung out, had fun, got along amazingly well. He never led me on or told me he wanted a relationship, but things did get intimate. We became Facebook friends, but red flag because I could only see friends that we had in common, but not his other friends. He just says he's a private person. So he gets flu for 2 wks & avoids me, but I think avoidance is more than due to flu. My thought: honeymoon's over. Comes over last week (still sick with fever) and says he missed me and was depressed for 2 wks without seeing me, but doesn't want to pursue relationship with me cuz we're so much alike, but wants me in his life FOREVER as a friend. Last week I go on his FB page and all posts and pics related to me were gone (although our pics in his photo albums still there, but he probably changed his privacy settings so only I can see those pics but nobody else can). He has NO idea how posts got deleted (posts by other friends are still there), swears he didn't do it. Comes over Friday and admits that he gets bored with women after a few months, always been that way, that I shouldn't take it personally, and he's not looking to date anyone right now nor is there any other woman on the horizon. Says I'm so different from anyone he's ever met that he doesn't want to lose me as a friend. Admits his last relationship of 3 yrs was friends w/benefits til she started pressing him for marriage. Says he still wants us to "cuddle" even if either of us ends up seeing other people!! Of course, "cuddling" on Friday did lead to more, although he says that wasn't his intention. Yeah right.

 

I'm insulted that he thinks I'm stupid enough to believe some random person broke into his computer, figured out his FB password, and then deleted ONLY posts that had to do with me but left everything else intact. I also think it shows a huge lack of integrity that he would think it's okay for either of us to basically cheat on someone we're dating to "cuddle" with each other.

 

Am I being paranoid or is this guy is just a lying, philandering piece of crap? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/images/red/smilies/mad.gif

[AlisaMarie]

He deleted them. He should have been honest about his ways from that beginning, and not tell you 2 months into the relationship. He is probably a slime and you really don't need him as a friend either. I mean, if the sex was that great and you can detach yourself emotionally, go for it. But I am a girl too, and I know that really doesn't work. Don't worry about the whole facebook thing. People are so immature when it comes to fb. I deactivated mine a month ago, and I don't miss it at all. Good luck!

[librooks]

Of course he deleted them! And yes, I'm very attracted to him and there's a lot of passion between us, but I can't detach myself emotionally and do the casual sex thing. And I really wouldn't want to with him at this point because I'm so angry about him lying about the Facebook stuff. Yes, total slime, and I can't be with someone who has such little respect for me. Jerk.

[Star Gazer]

Are you sure they're actually deleted?? My FB, as well as my friends', sometimes does this weird thing where posts/statuses/comments temporarily disappear, only to appear later that day, or even upon refreshing the screen. No joke. It happens to me ALL the time. My own posts and comments of others disappear...again, temporarily.

[RickG]

Met this guy 2 months ago. We hung out, had fun, got along amazingly well. He never led me on or told me he wanted a relationship, but things did get intimate. We became Facebook friends, but red flag because I could only see friends that we had in common, but not his other friends. He just says he's a private person. So he gets flu for 2 wks & avoids me, but I think avoidance is more than due to flu. My thought: honeymoon's over. Comes over last week (still sick with fever) and says he missed me and was depressed for 2 wks without seeing me, but doesn't want to pursue relationship with me cuz we're so much alike, but wants me in his life FOREVER as a friend. Last week I go on his FB page and all posts and pics related to me were gone (although our pics in his photo albums still there, but he probably changed his privacy settings so only I can see those pics but nobody else can). He has NO idea how posts got deleted (posts by other friends are still there), swears he didn't do it. Comes over Friday and admits that he gets bored with women after a few months, always been that way, that I shouldn't take it personally, and he's not looking to date anyone right now nor is there any other woman on the horizon. Says I'm so different from anyone he's ever met that he doesn't want to lose me as a friend. Admits his last relationship of 3 yrs was friends w/benefits til she started pressing him for marriage. Says he still wants us to "cuddle" even if either of us ends up seeing other people!! Of course, "cuddling" on Friday did lead to more, although he says that wasn't his intention. Yeah right.

 

I'm insulted that he thinks I'm stupid enough to believe some random person broke into his computer, figured out his FB password, and then deleted ONLY posts that had to do with me but left everything else intact. I also think it shows a huge lack of integrity that he would think it's okay for either of us to basically cheat on someone we're dating to "cuddle" with each other.

 

Am I being paranoid or is this guy is just a lying, philandering piece of crap? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/images/red/smilies/mad.gif

 

I wished there was a way to istant message you on here.

[librooks]

I wish that were the case, Star Gazer, but the posts have been gone for 4 days, and my other friends (who are also friends of his) can't see them either. And besides, it's only the posts that refer to me that are gone... other posts before and after that from other people are still there. But our photos are still there in his albums, although privacy settings can ensure that only certain people can see them. If it weren't for his standoffish behavior, I might have considered the possibility of a glitch, but too many odd things put together just don't add up.

[brown03]

This guy is a player and that's it. He only want's to use you for sex and that is all. I know this because any guy knows when they cuddle it leads to more and her will tell you anything and everything until her get's it and will never stop until he find's someone else or you stop it. He very well could have been sick or with someone else. I promise you that is all he is looking for he will tell you all the thing's in the world that will make you think he is so sweet or just give you alittle hope that there is a chance and you can be the one to break his habbits or getting bored of someone after 2 months. HE only told you that he get's bored so that you will want to try harder. And for a lot of people they think if they give them what they want (Sex) that they will fall for you. I'm not trying to be rude I just have so many Player friends and this is exactly what they do and tell me how it works. I just want to tell you before he hurt's you for real because I promise guy's like him are only out for sex and that's it they aren't looking for a relationship and will tell you anything give you hope to keep you around and know it will probably lead to sex.

[SeriousBob12]

Not to sound rude, but what difference does it make?

 

If he deleted them or not, it's a pointless thing. Say he did delete them, and you found out, how would that change anything?

 

You know where he stands, you know that he isn't looking for commitment or a girlfriend. As others have said it seems like he's using you, which is partly true but he has been upfront about it. It takes two to tango, so you're letting yourself get used too.

 

You don't deserve that! You obviously have feelings for him and want more. My advice would be to not fall for his advances/cuddling etc...He's still getting what he wants, and by you letting him he won't feel like he's doing anything wrong.

 

Put your foot down, and move on. This guy seems like trouble and not someone you should invest more time/feelings into.