Jlovestruckx0 Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Sorry this is long , please heard me out ...I posted a thread before about my boyfriend breaking up with me... well this all happened last week , we ended up talking and we agreed on giving it another chance and so I was happy , i was gonna try and make it work. We don;t have huge problems we just spend too much time together so we agreed that we wouldn't do that anymore , we would take days to ourselves and have space. I was fine with this. This past Friday i hung out with my bf and some friends and we were drinking , i of course over did myself for the first time and got piss drunk! I didn't do anything stupid I just was upset because my bf was mad at me and I didn't know what was going on so I was crying and it was just a mess. He told me that we'd talk the next day and that we wouldn't break up. The next day i called him and i apologized several times , i knew i was wrong and i admitted to everything and i took full responsibility of my actions , and he broke up with me. I was devastated! I knew i messed up but that is not me at all , im always the responsible one that watches over everyone else and never drinks or does anything like that , i just wanted to have fun and it went to far , and i am truly sorry, but for some reason he feels that he needs to break up with me? He kept telling me he doesnt want to be with someone that acts like that , I understand that.. but my problem is i NEVER act like that , is it honestly ok that he judged me and ended us over me getting drunk one night and crying? I cried b/c I knew he was mad and i didn't want to go home knowing he was mad. He means the world to me and I'm HURT , BEYOND HURT. I feel like there has to be more , but he won't tell me anything.. How can he just dump almost 2 years down the drain , then tell me were going to give it another shot for real , then break up with me again over me just getting drunk! I feel horrible , i regret even hanging out with him that day! I can't stop thinking it over and over , were so close were always together , how can this not bother him. I spilled my heart out to him and begged him to forgive me , and he says he does but were not getting back together ever.. I don't know what to do i made a mistake , that's not like me , I feel like there must be something else he's feeling. I can't sleep , & I haven't eaten since Friday afternoon. Im just so hurt I cant get over the breakup, I can;t because I don't know what the real cause is. I know it's not another girl... but what is it? Hes young maybe he just doesnt want to be tied down? but still how can he drop 2 years like it was NOTHING. i was always there for him , I did so much for him, he was my bestfriend and he doesn't care enough to try and work things out. We hung out yesterday and he kissed me, we kissed and cuddled and it felt great to have him close to me again. Before i left i told him in know he still loves me and wants me because if he didn't he wouldn't have let me over and wouldn't have kissed me, i knew that was hard for him. And he tried his hardest not to smile... I know he still loves me , so why is he doing this? He posted on facebook last night that hes confused , but he also took off a lot of pictures of us, he only left a couple. That hurt me also , those pictures mean everything to me , and he means everything to me , what the hell am i suppose to do! I want him back more than anything... what can I do , guys advice? ladies? please help me see this from a different point of view , PLEASE! ):
shocked_confused Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 I know what you're going through hun, and I'm sorry you're experiencing so much pain. What he's doing to you isn't fair, especially since he's not giving you an acceptable explanation for all this. It could just simply be because he wants to be single and have his freedom. Who knows, he may never tell you. Right now I would surround yourself with really good friends, keep yourself busy, excercise, go shopping, have fun, do ANYTHING you can possibly think of to take your mind off of him even if its just for a little while. Most importantly, give him his space and don't try to contact him. He may realize in the next few weeks or months that he made a mistake. If not, then at the very least you would have allowed yourself the time to heal and get past this. My boyfriend of 6 years just broke it off with me 2 weeks ago after moving to a new city (he's been there a month now). We're both 24 and he says he needs to experience life on his own. Not really a good enough explanation for me, but I'm starting to accept it and I want to move on more then ever. I haven't initated any contact with him at all. He's emailed me twice, and text me once to see how I am. I replied back all times, but I think from now on I'm just not even going to reply back. I feel so much better not having any contact with him; if we're not going to be together then why endure the pain of talking to him? It just sets me back each time. So, I think if you let the dust settle a bit, give him space, and focus on yourself and your friends then you'll be on the right path to healing (or possibly getting back together, don't be too hopeful though). Good luck, and let us know how everything goes with you!
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