amorous for1 Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Hello, first post on here. I am married 20+ yrs, MM is married 20+ yrs, started talking on one of these sites as getting councelling for a yr long e/a, next thing I know I amin a full E/A with this person. Long story short, doing everything possible to help each other, talking ,texting, sexting , webcam, phone, new cell phone, talk for hrs, different countries, doesn't matter. Very close,leaving wife/ leaving husband, turns one day into full blown phone sex, man can't handle it, going through turmoil, says loves his wife, needs to figure out if he is in the (fog). Meanwhile he says loves me all this time, has quit kissing and telling wife he loves her, that is what screwed him up. He is having trouble figuring out if his feelings are real for me. Has'nt had a sexual marriage in alot of yrs. So sorry this is long, so now I sit and wait for a few months to see if he sorts things out. It's torture but I'm actually keeping pretty good. I have faith that what we have is real and he will figure it out. Other partners don't know about ea's, not yet. My feelings are he thinks affairs never work from on these sites, everyone gets hurt but in real life the affairs I know about they all end up with the other person get married and are fairly happy. I know of quite a few and they are still togeter 3-5 yrs and still going. So I am confused, on these sites it seems like they never work out but in my experience they have. I am only going along with this because I have faith and trust in my MM, I could get screwed I realize that but I think he knows deep down we would be better off together. If anyone else has done this, let me know how you made out, or if you think I am nuts. I do have a grip on reality, I know I can get hurt really bad, time will tell.
greengoddess Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 How do you feel about your husband of 20 years. You mentioned how your mm feels about his wife but how do you feel about your husband? Have you looked at how this will affect your husbands life? Are you ready for the repercussions and to get a divorce from your husband? Have you told your husband you would like to be with another?
Author amorous for1 Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 It is a long story but yes my husband knows about me being done and ready to leave or at least seperate. Trying to get job situation more stable and holidays gone for the kids. Husband is a good man just too any problems I can't seem to forgive or get passed from a few years ago. Husband has changed but I think too late for me.
greengoddess Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 If this other man was not in the picture would it still be too late for your husband? Maybe you need a break from your emotional affair to sort out your marriage and get a divorce for the right reasons. Please don't let it be for a married man or you may get burnt.
Author amorous for1 Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 Yes, I agree fully GG, That is why MM wants me to focus on myself and my family. I do love my husband but not the way I should and Iam not happy, he let me down very bad with my some health issues never mind other stuff. has learned his lesson but it took me having an E/A then a second one started so intense I would leave right now if it wasn't for money. I am truely in love with other man, I am not young and nieve, I know I have alot to loose, alot to hurt but it is time for me to be happy, I haven't been in about 15 yrs. Sometimes its just to late. I could have died and didn't get support, guess what? Life is way to short, be happy could be dead tomorrow. That is my new way of thinking. I''ve done my time for others, it is now my time to be true to my self. thanks again
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