tobydog Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Mt ex HATES me after 10 weeks. He says he will never come back but will not give me chance to say what I need to. I can't stand the hate that he feels for me. It just kills me, that and abandoning his son. Can he carry this hatred for ever?
buttercup524 Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Can you tell us what has caused him to hate you?
Author tobydog Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 Hi I hogged this board so my story is everywhere, x Thanks
iheartboobs Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 No one can answer that. Different people have different capacities for hate... but that doesn't even matter. Yes, I'm sure you don't like that he hates you and I'm sure you wish he was a better father, but there's nothing you can do about it. I'm going to repeat that: there's nothing you can do about it. The only thing you can change is how long you let his hatred affect you. So... how long are you willing to let his hatred affect you? There's nothing you can do about him hating you. There's nothing you can do about how that affects your son. You can control how it affects you and you can be there for your son, but that's it. Quit focusing on your husband and trying to figure out what you can do to make him act like you want him to and start focusing on yourself.
Author tobydog Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 It's just so hard when I can feel his hatred. This episode yesterday took me back a lot of steps and he did look very ill indeed. I have ruined his life etc I did everything for him but he is not rational and cannot focus on anything other than his hatred for me and how he is having to move into a hovel and can't afford to divorce me and how I have caused him to lose everything........I am ill again, this was the man I loved and I have destroyed him, I kept him in a bubble he said? What the heck does that mean? I feel so sad and sorry for him...........
Tasmaniya Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 its depends how much you angry with him/her !!! i think its not a good think to carry one , just try to ignore such type of things ................................
goingstrong Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Mt ex HATES me after 10 weeks. He says he will never come back but will not give me chance to say what I need to. I can't stand the hate that he feels for me. It just kills me, that and abandoning his son. Can he carry this hatred for ever? My father hates is cheating stbx after 10 yrs now, and they were only married 10 yrs...reap what you sow.
Author tobydog Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 reap what you sow? I never cheated on him ever, it against my morals to do that. I still love him, read my back stories and you will know what went wrong. No I have this MASSIVE burden of guilt.............I did no wrong to him...................really
goingstrong Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Who...nobody said anything about cheating. That was just an example of the length of time that someone can hate....your results may vary depending on what you did.
just_some_guy Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Perhaps it is HURT that he feels, not hate.
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