Kendrick Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Do some men search for a mother figure when they are looking for a potential partner? If so, why?
PegNosePete Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Because they want to be looked after. Just like some women look for a father figure. It's all very Oedipal.
Author Kendrick Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 Thanks for your reply. The reason I had asked was, I'm currently dating this guy who I think might be like that. I have just recently became aware that this might be how he is and what he might be looking for. I'm not into taking care of a grown man like that. Also, I've heard some men who look for that mother figure type, are not as much into sex either, because their main focus is being taken care of like a mother would. However with this guy I'm seeing right now, he does want sex. Which is good, but at the same time, I don't feel real sexual while feeling like I'm mothering him or that he sees me a potential mother figure. It makes me feel kind of weird.
JackJack Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Offer him a baby bottle, if he takes it, run!
Author Kendrick Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 Offer him a baby bottle, if he takes it, run! Haha! Makes me wonder if this is whats wrong with SOME marriages. Most women wouldn't want to lay down with a man who she thought she had to parent.
jimrich Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 re: Haha! Makes me wonder if this is whats wrong with SOME marriages. Most women wouldn't want to lay down with a man who she thought she had to parent. ... Especially those who want to be parented them self! Best solution: parent each other.
ConstantCraving Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 Do some men search for a mother figure when they are looking for a potential partner? If so, why? Depends what you mean by "mother figure". Much older? I've dated women alot older than me who were anything but "motherly". Financially Supportive? Some guys mooch off women. Sad, but true. Affectionate? Some guys are cuddly. Some aren't. Does household chores, cooks, etc? Depends on the division of work in the relationship and who earns the money. Over-involved or bossy? No man likes that, but quite a few guys end up with women like that.
SouthernSunshine Posted November 25, 2010 Posted November 25, 2010 That's why I won't get legally married. I believe that once you marry a man, you turn into his mother, and you're no longer his lover. But then I'm intrigued by the married couples that have been together so long. Guess it's all about partnership, and teamwork.
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