How do I chill out and lower my expectations?

[slownumbers81]

Alright all, so I met this girl the other week at a party who I really think is amazing. I'm normally not so instantly interested in someone, but she was just one of the beautiful and most kind people I have ever met and we seem to laugh a lot. So here is my issue. We started communicating via email and it's been nice, BUT, I notice myself getting annoyed with her response time because I've been used to something different in the past when interested in someone. For example, I usually write back to her emails within the day, and she will respond about 3 days later. Whenever she does write though her emails are long, thoughtful, and cute. She also seemed excited when I asked her about hanging out this week, and we are going to.

 

My question is, how do I stop being annoyed at her slow responses? It seems like we just have a different time table at the moment because she does seem interested when she eventually replies. I'd like to just chill out because I usually feel impatient and wonder if she is even interested when it takes her a few days to respond.

 

Thoughts? Advice? I wasn't even interested in dating anyone until I met this girl, and I'm still not interested in dating anyone else until I explore this option at the moment, but wondering how to take a chill pill OR if perhaps we are just not compatible because of this? She just seems so darn incredible and I'd really like to learn more about her.

 

Alright, thanks for listening to my rant

[Tim The Enchanter]

You just have to be patient and see how things turn out. What does your gut instinct tell you about this girl? Usually you gut feeling about someone says as much as any specific action on her part.

[slownumbers81]

Hmm good thought... My gut instinct is that she is interested, but not as interested as me. My gut instinct is that from what I know she has a lot of the qualities of what I would consider "ideal", yet if we started dating it may not be that fulfilling for me because I could see myself feeling frustrated unless either: A) I lowered my expectations and just tried to have fun or B) her interest level and attentiveness increased.

 

Since I can't control what anyone else does, I can only aim for option A

[Tim The Enchanter]

I know from experience that it's hard to back out of these situations, even when you think that it's probably not going to go well for you. To be honest, it sounds as if you know what you are doing. You're not living under an illusion that this girl feels the same way you do, so you're managing your expectations. Of course, no one is a mind reader and you don't know how things will turn out.

 

Evidently it's a "wait and see" scenario with this girl.