Women get upset if you DO take no for an answer

[810]

The person who cares the least has the most power and control. The balance is *acceptance*. It doesn't matter whether it's situational or global. My definition of a 'blow-off' or 'low interest' is behavior which indicates to me that there is no interest, like *not* showing appreciation for the offer or *not* suggesting alternatives. 'I'm busy' with a *period* on the end of it is a blow-off, IMO, and 51 on this rock has shown it to be quite accurate, having not taken that as an answer on occasion over 20 years of dating. Yes, a woman has the right to change her mind. Absolutely. If/when she does, she can contact *me*. Simple as that. I'm off to other potentials and enjoying life, properly *caring more* about people and activities of value to me.

i like this response.

 

'I'd love to take you to dinner Thursday night at xxxx. Pick you up at seven?'

yea. it always puts a smile on my face whenever a guy says: I'd love/like to take you to dinner XXday at XXXX...

Edited November 22, 2010 by 810

[OldSkool]

1. Changing her mind is a woman's prerogative.

 

2. No means No!

 

Why would I want to try to build a relationship with a woman who starts out of the gate with deceit?

 

On the other hand, if at first she wasn't interested and then later honestly changes her mind (see #1), I'm willing to try again.

 

Peace

[Woggle]

You'd be suprised how many Long Term Rel or even marriages that have turned out from persistent men though.

 

I would not be surprised by how many of these ended with the I love you but I am not in love with you speech. Find a woman that does not play games. They exist so stop messing with the ones who do.

[fishtaco]

So if a woman doesn't accept an invitation/call back or whatever, it could mean:

 

a) She's interested

b) She's not interested

 

Yeah... that's great, but I don't play that game. If I know it is my role to take the initiative to ask, then she should know her role when the ball is in her court. It's very simple, suggest alternate time or initiate later. Or no, as in I'm not interested. It's not rocket science.

 

Anyway, from my perspective, the goal is to find out if a woman is interested; NOT to chase her down. It takes less energy to explore other options than to chase down someone that's running away, whether they're pretending to or not. I guess if I have no other options then I'd do the chasing, but do women really want a man with no other options?

 

So I take no for a no, and I move on with the least amount of drama. It's pretty amusing when women are surprised by this. Again, I'm into drama avoidance so I'd never say anything, but I'd be smirking inside.

 

Imagine that, people have to take responsibility for their own decisions. What a concept.

[deebeechrisyo]

I've actually had scenarios where I knew the woman wasn't that interested in me, but she would always say yes when I asked her out. I wasn't even paying for her either. Eventually, I knew it wouldn't lead anywhere, and I would stop asking them out. It just boggled my mind that I was never blown off.

 

It's pretty easy to tell when a woman is interested, you just realize it subconsciously. If she's texting you messages with substance (not just "hey, i'm doing well"), that's a great sign in my experience. If there is some added flirtation, you are totally in!

[sally4sara]

So if a woman doesn't accept an invitation/call back or whatever, it could mean:

 

a) She's interested

b) She's not interested

 

Yeah... that's great, but I don't play that game. If I know it is my role to take the initiative to ask, then she should know her role when the ball is in her court. It's very simple, suggest alternate time or initiate later. Or no, as in I'm not interested. It's not rocket science.

 

Anyway, from my perspective, the goal is to find out if a woman is interested; NOT to chase her down. It takes less energy to explore other options than to chase down someone that's running away, whether they're pretending to or not. I guess if I have no other options then I'd do the chasing, but do women really want a man with no other options?

 

So I take no for a no, and I move on with the least amount of drama. It's pretty amusing when women are surprised by this. Again, I'm into drama avoidance so I'd never say anything, but I'd be smirking inside.

 

Imagine that, people have to take responsibility for their own decisions. What a concept.

 

I think what is being said is more:

 

"Would you like to go out Thursday?"

 

"Sorry but I can't; I have to do (whatever) on Thursday."

 

This is low level interest. If it was high level interest, she'd follow with

"but I'm free on Saturday." or "maybe some other time?" or even "give me your number; I'll look at my schedule and give you a call."

 

A straight up "no", with no other info is a no and nothing more. Even a girl who is flattered to be asked out by you, but has a BF/husband will give the info that she is in a relationship as a softener to the no because she feels bad about turning you down.

 

And this holds true for you menfolk too. Having asked out men before myself, if I didn't get an immediate yes but the guy was interested, he did all the same stuff about info over scheduling or getting back to me about it. Even the "sorry but I can't; I have a GF."

[Disillusioned]

Heck, I'd take it as one more rejection.

 

Just curious: what would she think if I met another woman who didn't give me the brush?

[Els]

OP, can you please adjust your title accordingly so that guys don't get the horrible idea that they should keep pursuing when a woman literally says 'NO'?