Casual Dating??

[Sugarbear]

I must be confused about dating and relationships or how to tell the difference between caually dating and what I would consider a relationship which to me is not the same as casually dating....would love some feedback - would you consider this to be someone you were casually dating if you:

both agreed not to date others and to be in a committed monogomous relationship, and

you spent at least one or two weeknights together and every Friday night, Saturday night and part of Sunday, and

when you weren't together you communicated everyday at least two or three times at a minimum each day, and

you were given a key to their house, and

you were ask to bring clothes to leave at their house so you would always have more comfortable clothing to change in to after going out, and

you were told when you left on Sundays it was sad/already missed and

you shared very intimate conversations regarding family, friends and personal issues relating to professional/financial situations....

is this what one would consider "casual dating" and if so, is that different from a relationship? I'm confused!!

[welikeincrowds]

would you consider this to be someone you were casually dating if you:

 

both agreed not to date others and to be in a committed monogomous relationship

 

This is the relevant contradiction. "Casual dating" means never having to say "I'm taken." Otherwise, it's not casual.

[welikeincrowds]

On second thought, I'm uneasy about your approach. Why are you coming at this like a litigator? What's the story that prompted these questions?

[slownumbers81]

Nope that does definitely not sound like casual dating in any way, shape or form. Sounds like things you do in a serious / non-casual relationship to me

[Sugarbear]

Hmmm, well I was trying to outline the points and not ramble as I usually do but funny you say I am coming at it as a litigator since the profession of my ex partner - attorney. At any rate, I was in what I considered a serious relationship, the kind with the potential of long term romanance and when he suddenly broke up with me and I was/am devastated. For me, the time spent together and agreement not to be with others but exclusive to each other was not what I would consider casual dating, although we never said we loved each other...really...but in my confusion of sudden break-up and new found knowledge of the real love of his life returning to his life, hence our sudden and very abrupt break-up i.e., the night before the break-up, the conversation we had in which I was told he could see a great future for us and he could see falling in love with me....and less than 24 hours laters - she is back and he is sorry. The conversation we had in which I was given the explanation of what had happened and how sorry he was that I was hurt because in his mind we casually dated and it just didn't work out. Of course, I tried to explain I didn't know we were casually dating and he stands/stood firm on that being what "we" were as he never said he "loved me".