AshlynV Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Hello! So I grew up with this amazing guy and this past summer we began dating one another. He asked to make it official and I said no, I realize now that this was a major mistake. Since then we have continued speaking everyday and have not been seeing other people. I visited him in October and everything went great! During Thanksgiving he brought me to meet his extended family, which I later found out that I am the only girl he has ever done this with. I am falling head over heels for him and we discussed becoming official and I said that I wanted to talk about it when we next saw each other in person. This is where things start to get messy. We attend universities that are 6 hours away from each other. Currently it is midterm time and he is applying for grad schools. I know that he is super stressed and a couple weeks ago he said that he needs a break from 'us'. So I asked what that meant, since we are not official and are so far away. He suggested not speaking for a little while, this absolutely floored me! After we hung up I realized that I am falling in love with him but I do not want to tell him in fear that it will just scare him away. The major issue is the distance and our uncertain futures...he is thinking of going to grad school that is on the other side of the country. We like each other a lot but we are victims of circumstance. I am not sure what I should do..move on or hold on to the hope of being together? I know we are meant to be together. I sent him a birthday card and he texted me saying thank you. At Christmas break I am going to suggest going to get coffee at Starbucks. If he says no then I am going to give up hope. If he says yes, which I am obviously hoping that he does, then what should I do? Press the issue or let him make all the decisions? I just feel so helpless and lost in this situation. I just do not understand because, and this may sound conceded, but there are other guys who want to date me but I do not like them in the same way. Yet the one guy I really really really like doesnt seem to want the same thing. Urgh
hoping2heal Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Hello! So I grew up with this amazing guy and this past summer we began dating one another. He asked to make it official and I said no, I realize now that this was a major mistake. Since then we have continued speaking everyday and have not been seeing other people. I visited him in October and everything went great! During Thanksgiving he brought me to meet his extended family, which I later found out that I am the only girl he has ever done this with. I am falling head over heels for him and we discussed becoming official and I said that I wanted to talk about it when we next saw each other in person. This is where things start to get messy. We attend universities that are 6 hours away from each other. Currently it is midterm time and he is applying for grad schools. I know that he is super stressed and a couple weeks ago he said that he needs a break from 'us'. So I asked what that meant, since we are not official and are so far away. He suggested not speaking for a little while, this absolutely floored me! After we hung up I realized that I am falling in love with him but I do not want to tell him in fear that it will just scare him away. The major issue is the distance and our uncertain futures...he is thinking of going to grad school that is on the other side of the country. We like each other a lot but we are victims of circumstance. I am not sure what I should do..move on or hold on to the hope of being together? I know we are meant to be together. I sent him a birthday card and he texted me saying thank you. At Christmas break I am going to suggest going to get coffee at Starbucks. If he says no then I am going to give up hope. If he says yes, which I am obviously hoping that he does, then what should I do? Press the issue or let him make all the decisions? I just feel so helpless and lost in this situation. I just do not understand because, and this may sound conceded, but there are other guys who want to date me but I do not like them in the same way. Yet the one guy I really really really like doesnt seem to want the same thing. Urgh Ashlyn, whether they are aware of it or not many girls have other guys who would love to date them. That does not mean the person you are interested in wants to date you, so why you "don't understand" is beyond me, but okay. As for the guy, if he accepts the invite tell him how you feel. Tell him you want to try for a relationship. If he says no, then so be it.
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