GuySimple Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 I recently met someone whom is physically a departure from the people I normally date. From a non-physical perspective she is dynamic, smart, fun, humorous, very pretty, and just a really nice person. But, she is larger, with a larger bottom. I find myself really enjoying her company, but the size thing does linger. She is confident and her size does not seem to be an issue for her and she dresses nicely and has a nice style. Clearly this is an issue of image for me. I wonder what others would think. Very shallow, but I’m guessing I’m not the only person who has had this question or situation. Has anyone struggled with the same question? Or even a similar issue where the person was someone who they felt very comfortable with but had one issue that seemed be potentially derail things.
Cee Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 I'm in a similar situation. I'm dating someone who I'm not physically attracted to, but he is an amazing person. I haven't met anyone that I've been this compatible with in several years. And he is a total sweetheart and treats me so well. I have liked men who are overweight and don't mind that, but he's pretty large which I'm not used to. I am taking it slow and getting to know him. I keep asking myself would I rather date a skinny jerk or a fat cool guy. Therefore, I'm giving it a chance. I don't have any answers for you, but I wanted you to know you aren't alone.
Mad Max Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 The key is you have to stop giving a sh*t about what people think. The last girl I was interested in weighed a good 200 pounds. I learned from an early age that looks are not everything. Most of the hot girls I came across were arrogant and had nothing else going for them besides their looks. I date a girl because I find her attractive not just because of how she looks, but also her personality. I'm not going to waste my time on shallow airheads. Never again will I do that.
AverageJoe Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 If fat chics can give you wood then you should be ok.
SilentVoice Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 I don't agree with your throughts. You really shouldn't care what others think, and you won't be able to change your mind over night.So you really shouldn't continue something that is on a path to failure already.
Author GuySimple Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 When I'm with her it is very comfortable. When I talk to her and look at her there is a nice energy. I know my hang up is me thinking about what others might think rather than just saying F*** them and enjoying myself for a change. Typically I've gone for looks first and tried to fit the personality to mine. Hense maybe why I'm still single. A friend told me once not to go for looks first and it has not worked out for me. So, how do you get comfortable with other people potentially judgeing you for being with a larger person? Wow, maybe someone planned it this way.
AverageJoe Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Typically I've gone for looks first and tried to fit the personality to mine. Hense maybe why I'm still single. Whats the problem with being single? Curious.
Author GuySimple Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 Whats the problem with being single? Curious. Not a thing if you enjoy being single.
Cee Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 So, how do you get comfortable with other people potentially judgeing you for being with a larger person? Wow, maybe someone planned it this way. I think when you really like somebody, what other people think matters less. Likely, your friends won't judge you. Your friends want you to be happy and as long as she's not a total b*tch, they will probably like her. I hear what you are saying. I used to go for looks first and would make myself into what the man wanted. Now I'm trying to date someone who has a great personality and sense of humor. (And an amazing music collection).
AverageJoe Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Not a thing if you enjoy being single. That narrows it down. Curiosity satisfied. Thx.
hearttobreak Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Personality and kindess is good and nice, but are you attracted to her? I mean, can you perform sexually with her? Eventually, this would be an issue. I have met some great women, who have amazing personalities, but I am not attracted to. Unfortunately, I would need to be attracted to a woman to date them. Overweight woman, I am not attracted to. I have tried dating one, I just was not sexually attracted to her. So, guess, for me, I'll be single for a while.
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