Romance Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 If anyone else has experienced this in their long distance relationship, would you private message me? I really need someone to talk to. I'm so worried and afraid he's going to harm himself everyday. He's in the stage where he is trying to cut off all ties with everyone, I can tell. He has not been replying to my texts and calls, which is not like him at all. I am so emotionally drained, if you have any advice or are in a similar situation, i'd really like to talk about it. thanks a lot for any help.
Scott Clifford Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Be there for him when he needs to, let him know. It will not be easy, you'll need a lot of pacience. Make plans, give him something to look forward to.
hoping2heal Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 If anyone else has experienced this in their long distance relationship, would you private message me? I really need someone to talk to. I'm so worried and afraid he's going to harm himself everyday. He's in the stage where he is trying to cut off all ties with everyone, I can tell. He has not been replying to my texts and calls, which is not like him at all. I am so emotionally drained, if you have any advice or are in a similar situation, i'd really like to talk about it. thanks a lot for any help. Make a call and get him some help. If he is contemplating suicide he needs much more than a LD gf right now. Call his family, tell them what's up. Make some calls to the hospital there.
Author Romance Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 I have told his family. They're aware. I have offered to come to his house and help him check himself in etc. he's closing off from and I feel so isolated. I want to help him more than ANYTHING. I myself see a psychiatrist, so he knows I OF ALL PEOPLE understand what he's going through. He just..idk I need him a lot right now.
folieadeux Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 I agree with the other posters. Even if you were there right now with him, it sounds like your SO is in need of some serious, professional help. This goes beyond the "normal" LDR woes we can offer you advice on here. Best of luck and keep us updated.
Author Romance Posted November 23, 2010 Author Posted November 23, 2010 Yeah I know that no one can offer me real help, but if anyone was in a similar situation, it'd just be nice to talk. the distance makes it especially hard because I can't just go to his house in 2 minutes and be like hi, lets fix this. if he doesn't answer his phone, that's it. I have nothing.
HeavenOrHell Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 Sorry you're going though this, it must be horrible not being able to be there for him, I know I find it hard enough when my partner is stressed about work or something, but to not be able to be there for him in person if he were badly depressed would tear me up My ex partner was suicidal for a while when we lived together, but I don't have experience of it in an LDR. I think you've done all you can to help him, my best friend was suicidal, I called her mental health team to make sure they were aware of how she felt and I just kept texting and emailing her to let her know I was here for her, she wouldn't let me call her or see her (she doesn't live locally to me). Feel free to PM if you need someone to talk to.
madjac74 Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 I have gone thru a depression in the past where I shut people out of my life. I didnt have any inspiration to do the things I normally loved doing and was just tired all the time. But it doesnt necessarily mean suicide is an option for these people. I realized no matter how hard things were that it wouldnt be fair to punish my kids, my family and everyone who cared about me. Just support him as much as you can but eventually only he can decide to go get help. I also had a gf who would call me drunk telling me goodbye and all this and of course I had to go check on her just to find out she was passed out or in a drunken hysteria. She used suicide to get attention and it drained the life out of me. But I constantly went to her even after we broke up cuz I always worried what if this was the one time she did it? And then there is my good friend who actually did it. A joy to be around everyday. Even when I came to work grumpy he always made me laugh and made work better. I came to work one day to find out he killed himself. Never saw it coming. Would never have expected it in a million years. So thats my experience with depression/suicide. Its just one of those things where you need to remind ANYONE you care about how important they are to you. You really have no idea what even the closest people to you could be going through. And if you sense things are hard for them, make their day anyway you can. Its could be as simple as a hug or flowers. Sorry that got long but its a touchy subject for me
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