hART Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 My boyfriend was having some problems with me (respect issues, not seeing me enough...), then last night I caught him cheating on me. He proceeded to lie about it and tried to cover it up, while she was in the bathroom. He insists this is the first time, but I find that highly unlikely, since he just lied to me about it to begin with. However, his stupidity in the matter, leads me to believe he doesn't have much experience with it, so he hasn't gotten the timing right; maybe indicating he is being truthful. My question is, should I forgive him and try to mend the relationship? should we take a break? or should we just break up and call it a loss? I'm leaning towards break, since neither of us are happy in this relationship now.
woinlove Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 My boyfriend was having some problems with me (respect issues, not seeing me enough...), then last night I caught him cheating on me. He proceeded to lie about it and tried to cover it up, while she was in the bathroom. He insists this is the first time, but I find that highly unlikely, since he just lied to me about it to begin with. However, his stupidity in the matter, leads me to believe he doesn't have much experience with it, so he hasn't gotten the timing right; maybe indicating he is being truthful. My question is, should I forgive him and try to mend the relationship? should we take a break? or should we just break up and call it a loss? I'm leaning towards break, since neither of us are happy in this relationship now. Usually people who cheat will cheat again unless they do the work to figure out why they behave like that and are committed to to changing. Just getting caught is often not enough to make them change, although it might make them stop for a while. Lying seems to go along with cheating, although a few will at least be honest when they know they've been caught. So lying when caught isn't a good sign either. If you are not married and don't have children together, I think you should move on and find someone who makes you happy and treats you with respect. From your post it sounds like you are able to do that, which is great. Some people are so madly in love with (or addicted to, dependent on, whatever) the cheater that they can't move on and set themselves up for a lot more heartbreak. Respect yourself, acknowledge that your bf doesn't, and tell him you deserve better.
wicar1 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 (edited) Dump that guy, he will continue his nasty work. You deserve better. He's not worth it. Edited November 21, 2010 by wicar1
Author hART Posted November 23, 2010 Author Posted November 23, 2010 He wasn't interested in keeping the relationship, so I didn't mention wanting to keep it going. It is probably for the best anyway.
Author hART Posted November 23, 2010 Author Posted November 23, 2010 It was time for it to end regardless, thank you.
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