sig537 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 So I met this great girl online. We exchanged emails for 2 weeks and then decided to meet up. Well a few hours before the date she cancelled, said she had a headache. To her credit she did call me a few hours later from the hospital (I could her hospital sounds). So I believe her. We decided we would try to meet a 2nd time, well same thing a few hours before the date she cancelled, this time stating an old friend from PA who she hadn't seen in years was coming in town. I wasnt sure if she was just blowing me off or not but I figured I would give her one more chance, follow the old 3 strikes your out rule. We finally meet up on the 3rd try and everything goes great. We had been dating for 4-6 weeks when I asked her about the dates she cancelled, she told me the same story headache and an old friend. Well 4 months into the relationship I finally figure out truth. The first cancel was legit, she was at the hospital she even showed me the ER bill. But the 2nd cancel she went out on a date with someone else she meet online. He was from out of state, PA, he came into town for the weekend. So yes she meet up with someone from PA but it wasnt an old friend, it was a DATE!! She never admintted this to me, for fear of hurting my feelings. It was only when I conforted her with evidence that she admitted it. So now not only I am hurt she would choose to date someone who lives out of state and who she described as overweight (and yes she knew that before the date) but also she LIED to me multiple times about this. How do I know she hasnt lied to me about something else? How can I trust her?
wicar1 Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 So I met this great girl online. We exchanged emails for 2 weeks and then decided to meet up. Well a few hours before the date she cancelled, said she had a headache. To her credit she did call me a few hours later from the hospital (I could her hospital sounds). So I believe her. We decided we would try to meet a 2nd time, well same thing a few hours before the date she cancelled, this time stating an old friend from PA who she hadn't seen in years was coming in town. I wasnt sure if she was just blowing me off or not but I figured I would give her one more chance, follow the old 3 strikes your out rule. We finally meet up on the 3rd try and everything goes great. We had been dating for 4-6 weeks when I asked her about the dates she cancelled, she told me the same story headache and an old friend. Well 4 months into the relationship I finally figure out truth. The first cancel was legit, she was at the hospital she even showed me the ER bill. But the 2nd cancel she went out on a date with someone else she meet online. He was from out of state, PA, he came into town for the weekend. So yes she meet up with someone from PA but it wasnt an old friend, it was a DATE!! She never admintted this to me, for fear of hurting my feelings. It was only when I conforted her with evidence that she admitted it. So now not only I am hurt she would choose to date someone who lives out of state and who she described as overweight (and yes she knew that before the date) but also she LIED to me multiple times about this. How do I know she hasnt lied to me about something else? How can I trust her? If you are in doubt just dump her. Dont take any chances.
PegNosePete Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Ditch. She blew you off for someone else a few HOURS before a date with you. She should have told the other guy she already had plans. No respect.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 How do I know she hasnt lied to me about something else? How can I trust her? You shouldn't even be asking this question. Have some self-respect and launch her.
TigerCub Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 So now not only I am hurt she would choose to date someone who lives out of state and who she described as overweight (and yes she knew that before the date) but also she LIED to me multiple times about this. How do I know she hasnt lied to me about something else? How can I trust her? does the part in bold really matter? Would you have felt better if she blew you off for a guy that's all ripped and lean? Anywhos...since the guy is from out of state, I'm guessing that she met up with him for a booty call. I'm also guessing that since you're local (and not overweight (?)) she wanted to really date you and so she took the physical stuff slower with you. So she met up with the other guy to fool around and get that out of her system, so that she can take things slower with you. But, really at the end of the day, she lied to you, and she blew you off to see/or most likely sleep with another guy. Why would you put up with such disrespect. I totally get the idea of dating multiple people before actually committing to one, but I'd never blow off one person for another, and just give them a few hours notice before I canceled a date - that's not cool. She's already showing that she's selfish AND a liar - oooh, that's great gf material
WTRanger Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 (edited) Get rid of her and fast. People like her live to tell half-truths, that way they aren't telling lies. The guy from PA was a great example, it was a 1/2 truth and not a whole lie at least in her severely skewed mind. Also, for what its' worth. She lied about not wanting to hurt your feelings by not telling you. She didn't want to hurt HER OWN feelings and make HERSELF look bad by telling you she's passing her qwim around to anyone who comes into town. Edited November 22, 2010 by WTRanger
Author sig537 Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 Update on this. I found out not only did she go on a date with this guy but she spent 24 hours straight with him. Sleep in the same bed, she says they didnt have sex though. But she was willing to have sex with him, he just couldnt get it up. I dont believe her of course. So originally she lied about why she blew me off, then she finally admited it but stating they only had a kiss, nothing more. Now I found out he rounded 3rd at least. I dont think I can get past this.
PegNosePete Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Hate to say told you so... actually I'm lying, I like to say told you so. Sorry Why are you still talking to her? She is an evil lying witch. You can easily get past it by totally ignoring her like you should have originally. Learn from the experience, and move on.
Darren Steez Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 What exactly are you writing here for, if you were going to do anything you would have done it by now, the fact she was willing to sleep with someone else and he couldn't get it up, a)either she's pushing you with the gory details trying to see how far she can go because quite frankly you won't do anything or b) she actually screwed the guy and is feeding you a line of BS because you'll accept whatever story she tells you and...you won't do anything. She blew you off and while you were upset at home she was "spending time" with another man. But now you know what sort of character you're dealing with, we'll see how long it takes before she breaks your heart again.
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