Author caring guy Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 Thanks 9lives I know this girl & all her friends & her mum also told me she needs to be alone to sort herself out!! I'm not banking on anything at all!! Its upsetting as we both care for each other a lot & miss each other when its good, but we were bringing each other down with our issues & not getting better! She has cried a lot, me too & wants to stay in touch!! At the mo, its better than nothing & time will tell!! I just feel like a fish out of water because our place & us isn't there anymore & i miss it & her, but she's battled her demons so long, she needs to sort them in her way & says who knows the future!!
rebeccajones Posted November 26, 2010 Posted November 26, 2010 Take care of yourself too while you are in all this. Just don't rely on her for happiness. Best of luck caring guy!
Author caring guy Posted November 26, 2010 Author Posted November 26, 2010 This is another thing!, we had our lovely flat, now i'm back with my family, its her flat, i just paid rent! I don't feel social at the moment cos i see coming back home as a step back. All my friends were her friends & i hate the local bars etc!! I guess its a healing process!! We did everything together! I'm hurting a lot at the moment & in shock! She did tell me that when we meet it will be emotional & like nothing had changed! Who knows what will happen, i can't be pushy or forceful but happens over time! She so needs time alone her mum says & her best friend! But when we lay eyes on each other, i'll be cool, calm & collected & see what happens!! Just posting helps cos it helps with the pain!
Fufu Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 Continue to post here, it does help to make oneself feel much better
Author caring guy Posted November 27, 2010 Author Posted November 27, 2010 my ex is putting pics of herself & her best mate (girl) on facebook, pics of our flat! I wonder if she's doing it to upset me! or to see if i react! I feel i want to comment! but i know i shouldn't! She's still wanting to meet for coffee in the week!
Author caring guy Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 I'm still in a state of heart break!, she says i can leave my stuff there & she hasn't boxed it up as it was too painful! I'm due to call her tomorrow to make arrangements for the coffee! I know some guys here think its all done & dusted, but i must at least try! Do i act as i did on those 1st few dates when she was so hot for me, do i reminisce, do i talk of what we did & miss!! I know i must be cool & smiley & not what i've been like in private??? She was in tears to me on the phone & calling me darling & baby & how i've been so important for 10 months to her & a massive part of her life, but because of her needing her space, she's felt a little better & obviously without my issues that she can't afford to invest on me she she needs to get well!!
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